Let's keep it from getting too serious in here. We have an SD thread about this topic already.
I guess that this is more of a narrow niche issue in the sense that I'd like it confined away from the morality of abortion (I'm a pretty outspoken pro-life individual).
Rather, I'd like this thread to be concerned more with the title: Have you personally ever had an abortion? Or for a male, has your partner had one? Or have you or your partner considered one and decided not to?
Anecdotes about your experiences would be appreciated.
I'm a man and thus have never had one, no has anyone I've ever had sexual relations with been in a position that they'd consider one.
This is not a thread for passing judgement on individuals who have chosen to or to not have an abortion. If I come back here and notice someone has done so, I won't hesitate to recommend you for an infraction.
(ADMIN EDIT: the above is your ONLY warning, and I will infract if anyone goes against this, without hesitation --Liah)
I've never had an abortion but I would get one for each and every time I got pregnant. I have no desire to have children ever and it's nearly impossible for a nulliparous woman to get a tubal ligation at 19/20. Abortion would have to be my last resort when/if my birth control fails.
Nyet. I...strongly believe in safe sex so i never had even the slightest of slip ups. I am pretty pro choice so i wouldnt have too much of a beef going in and getting one if necessary. But im so much of a stickler, im not doing the deed without protection.
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No babies here either! I'm not sexually active, but when I start to be I plan on using all the protection I can. If, however, I ended up pregnant at this age (I'm 17) or even five years from now, I think I'd get an abortion. When I bring a baby into this world I want to be able to give it all it deserves, and I just can't do that now or even in the near future.
I'm strongly pro-choice but even if I did end up getting one, it would definitely cause me some emotional pain. That's something I can say for sure.
I remember having a conversation with a friend about this, I'll quote what she said:
"everything happens for a reason, you have sex, and if you get pregnant, you should keep it. it was your choice to do it unprotected and you have no right to abort somethung that could be great"
-My friend Christan
I agree with her statement fully, I for one is not one with abortion, but, I do also understand ♥♥♥♥ happens and you're unable to take care of the child/baby. If I would get pregnant now (I'm about to turn 18 soon), I would keep it.
Abortion is a right I'd never want to lose, and one I'd never want to use, either.
Getting pregnant right now would probably be one of the worst things that could happen to me (perhaps an exaggeration, it'd be bad), and I'd have to really consider whether my husband and I could give our child the life it deserves at this point in time, to which we would answer probably no. However, if it came down to practice--i.e. if I actually got pregnant--I don't honestly think I could go through with it. People seem to always find a way, and I think the emotional pain of my actions would haunt me for the rest of my life.
I'm definitely with Calypso: it's an option and a right that I want to have, but I sincerely hope it will never have to be a choice I'll have to consider. I've had a pregnancy scare once and it was terrifying even going through the options in my head.
I'm very much pro-choice. There are so many unwanted children waiting to be adopted into loving families already, and far too many circumstances of unwanted pregnancies caused by horrific circumstances. If a woman's health is at risk, she should have the choice to do what she wants with her body and terminate the pregnancy.
But like I said, I very much hope I'll personally never have to choose that. Schools and parents should educate people on proper birth control and sexual health/rights so that the choice is rarely, if ever, needed.
I've not had an abortion, nor have I ever been pregnant, though there was one point where I had a pregnancy SCARE, and that was... uh, one of the strangest experiences I've ever had. Like, when I missed my period and I had had sex a few months back, my reaction to it wasn't what I'd expected. I had thought I'd be terrified thinking my life was OVER. Not the case. Well, I was SCARED, but I... had never felt so fiercely protective of anything in my life. When I told my best friend I was late, she immediately asked if I would consider an abortion, and I knew right then, right there, I would never, ever say yes to it. Ever. Turns out I wasn't which is GOOD because I was NOT ready for that responsibility, but when the possibility seemed very real, the thought of taking that away made me sick to my stomach.
That said, I'm not against the choice being there. I have friends who've had abortions. In an ideal world, I'd never, ever want an abortion to occur, but I've known many situations that have been less than ideal. Some downright terrifying and if anyone ever cast judgment on them, you bet your ass I'd vehemently defend their choice. So while for me, abortion is never going to be an option, that is not something I would look down on any other women for.
I, uh, I have never had sex, so consequently, I have never had an abortion either.
As long as I'm not ready for the responsibility that a child is, I want to make sure that when I have sex, it's super safe. Now if unexpected things happen during sex, I would probably use a 72-hours pill, which is technically abortive, but I still feel it's not the same as killing the embryo which has implanted and all. But I really want to avoid even this. There are so many ways for protection.
Hypothetically speaking, if I end up being pregnant because... it just happened, then I would probably not abort it, no. I would probably forever feel that I killed something that I shouldn't have, and I don't think there would be anyone or anything to comfort me and help me deal with the guilt. Moreover, I like to think that I have sex with people I like, and it's hard to imagine I would want to kill that life that was born (or, well, not yet) from him and myself. As emotional as it may sound, it's true.
If I was raped and got pregnant, now that's quite interesting. I don't know. I really can't tell. When I was sexually molested once, approximately a year ago, I remember both the hate and the disgust that I felt towards both myself and towards the people attacking me. Bearing a rapist's child would be... ugh. The mere idea makes me shiver and feel unpleasant.
As others, I genuinely hope I'll never have to consider abortion.
Not unless if the woman I had impregnated had problems, even then I'd feel kinda iffy about openly encouraging it. I've never been a fan of abortion to begin with so it'd have to be a pretty major issue for me to prefer an abortion over having a child.
I've always assumed I'd be able to buckle down and make the money necessary if I really had to. I might be wrong but I feel like I'd be able to secure the funds better than most are/would be able to do.
I personally am not a fan of abortion. It all depends on circumstance really, I'm pro-choice I guess, because I believe the woman is the one who decides and I am not her in her position. So if she aborts who am I to judge?
I am really against abortion, though. I got pregnant when I was 14 years old so obviously most everyone was like "uggghhh okay Mackenzie let's get an abortion and get it over with" but I could not do it.
Sometimes I think I should have because I really screwed myself over, got screwed over by the baby's dad (sorry Tess! I know you love him and whatever but he entirely shut down when it came to Jackie and I got no help from him whatsoever even though he promised he'd be there) and I kind of screwed up her life a bit too now, because here she is growing older and wondering why she doesn't have a daddy, and I'm wondering how I'm going to be able to finish school and grow up and get a job while simultaneously raising her and can't afford a car and can't afford daycare and my life is basically like. I jumped into a well. My own fault.
I'm so glad I kept her. She's so beautiful and smart and full of life and precious to me. I love her with my whole heart, and it was a situation kind of like with Liah, when it came to deciding what my options are, I couldn't help but feel overwhelmingly protective of her.
PS and yes I did consider adoption very seriously but it was the mommy-hormones or something, every fiber of my being was telling me not to give her up, don't do it, so I went with that feeling and kept her. Looking back, I don't think I should have.
But adoption is probably the best option out there for moms who can't take care of their baby, I found there was so many families out there looking to adopt.
I think abortions are down to the individual, while I personally think they're a good thing in many cases (i.e. not being able to support the potential child look it should be or not having a father to raise the baby with) and in this day and age it seems a bit close-minded to ban women from making a choice in regard to whether they keep a baby that they wouldn't want.
I'm pro-life. I never had an abortion, never will. Many times, depending on the person, I think a lot of women who have had abortions are kind of irresponsible. Not all, but many. I know some have their reasons, and it is understandable.
well if i ever have an abortion i would wonder how i has a baby in my nonexistent uterus.
but on a lighter note, I don't really care whether someone gets an abortion or not as a fetus is not a person to me. It's the same as a guy shaking hands with benjamin. There are many circumstances involved and it isn't a black and white thing, I could understand one's reasoning for getting an abortion.
If I were in the situation? Depends. Like, right now - not ready to raise a kid. I'm jobless, not finished with college, don't even have my own apartment, my own family wouldn't really be able to help at all. I'd be extremely uncomfortable raising a child. Not to mention I don't have any interest in having kids and wouldn't want to become rooted down.
A couple years down the road when my future girlfriend/wife is pregnant and we're stable, I would probably consider whether or not I want to raise it.
So, doesn't bother me when women get an abortion, dunno what I'd do if I got a girl pregnant tomorrow night but I would want her to put it up for adoption or abort it.
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now while I am pro-choice, I might be swayed more in the pro-life direction if:
birth control were free. Yes this includes condoms and pills and whatever else my virgin mind is unaware of. I actually find it really really weird that conservatives in the USA are pro-life but are against free birth control for women and want us to teach abstinence-only education. Like, what, if you don't want babies being aborted then we should provide safety and education to people.
and secondly, more money into the foster care system to ensure it's the best possible. I'm sure we've all heard or read or possibly even saw IRL some terrible things. It could use more money and care.
Since, hypothetically, abortion is illegal, I believe the woman should be compensated somehow. At least given some money during the 9 months. Abortion outlawed will come with a price.
If I ever had vaginal sex, I would definitely use a condom. This is a rule I would keep until the age of thirty. Below the age of thirty, I don't see myself wanting a child because I would have many things that I would like to do, and I would have no desires of settling down and starting a family while in my twenties. My father has said something many times throughout my life, which is that you should start a life for yourself before you start a life for others. That makes sense. If I have a child, I want that child to live in a good, healthy home; and while in my twenties, I see myself still in college and trying to find a job that would support me and my spouse and my child, if I end up having a girlfriend/wife and a child.
And the number of children I'd like to have is one. Even though, at times, things could have possibly been better if there was someone there with me in the household who was my age, I'd still have only one child because I could devote all of my care to that one child, and I fear that I may naturally develop a "favorite." This sounds silly, but I'm just theorizing the possibilities.
So, I'm for abortion. Even though it may seem wrong to end someone's life before they're even able to live, I believe every woman should have the right to do whatever she wants with her vagina. If women want to get an abortion, then they should what they want to do. But I'm not willing to argue about it, because I'm not the arguing type. And this isn't a thread for debate about what whether women should have abortions or if it should become illegal, last I recalled.