General Advice Thread

Then dedicate more than an hour and stop being lazy.

If you find that you're watching the clock while you're practising the guitar (or whatever the case maybe) where you can't enjoy it or get lost in it, maybe consider giving that one up for something you enjoy more. Doing a lot of things at once can be damaging to all the rest and it's not failing to set something aside for now to focus on it later.

Originally Posted by Khal Drogo

Then dedicate more than an hour

At the same time, 1+ hour of practicing any musical instrument is worth close to nothing. In case of certain instruments, bassoon for instance, it's physically pointless. It's really important that you focus and you actually listen to what you are doing/practicing. Otherwise there's no point. Just as Mike said.

You also don't want learning a musical instrument to be a chore.

So have fun, if practising scales is boring you out of your mind, well then just jam along to a song. Just have fun with it. If you're not having fun with it, well accept that you don't enjoy what you're doing and find a different hobby.

How do I make my mp3s into a youtube video with some background? Can someone straight up tell me? I really don't get it, I know its stupid, nd I'm sorry but help would be really appreciated.

And I'm sorry if this isn't the right place, and this is where I should post my personal issues not tech issues, I'm sorry. Personal issues aren't important anyhow tho.

No Magenta

Whoops, I don't know, but a quick random question to ZUers:

Is there some sort of natural way (drinking milk or something) that ensures peaceful sleep? I always wake up 5+ times a night since... Monday, I'd say, so it's been two nights, and I'd sort of like to get my sleep; because despite getting 8+ hours, I'm exhausted because of these random awake periods.

AND IT'S ANNOYING UHHH. @____@

well uh.

Do I even have to say what I recommend for that?

Probably not possible for you to get it/use it though.

Exercise Helps You Sleep

Well, it has definitely worked for me. When I've been more active, I'll generally have no problems falling asleep, and I don't wake up randomly either. If I've been lazy, and have been neglecting exercise for a while, I'll generally stay awake for longer, and my quality of sleep drops quite a bit.

Hrrrrrrm.

I might run a few MILES with the dog before going to bed. At least the dog won't wake me up for sure.

DOING THIS TONIGHT
Will the results tomorrow. :'>

Thanks. ♥



YES CHRIS I KNOW YOUR ADVICE IS TO GET DREADS. x'> ♥

what does a sprained wrist feel like? because i think i sprained mine, but I don't really know?
sometimes it really hurts and sometimes it doesn't. Yesterday it did, a dew days ago it did, and now it hurts again.

How do I meet new people in a town where there are no social hangouts and basically no social groups or clubs that I have access to (whether it's due to them not existing or work or whatever)?

How do I tell my father that I don't want to cut my hair?

This is a simple response, but he'd call me things like a "hippie" and a girly boy if I do it. Even if I don't identify myself as a hippie, and I prefer to disregard the notions of masculinity and femininity. It just feels awful almost every time I cut my hair. I've just always seen women with their nice long hair, and I've wanted to have it for a long time. Not too long though.

Well my grandpa always talked about "when are we getting your next haircut" and ♥♥♥♥ like that. I just said "nope" each time. Dunno how well that'd work for you.

you know, your dad is deliberately provoking you by calling you a hippie and girly boy or whatever. You've probably reinforced that in his head that it'll work because you've gotten a haircut after he's done it too, I bet.

When someone is trying to provoke you, just say "k." Even if it gets to you, don't let it show. Acknowledge he's said it, but otherwise ignore it. Eventually he'll change tactics.

Yeah, I should simply say no, like what Chris said.
And to Avamike, he doesn't actually call me a hippie or a girly boy. It's just my stupid worries that he will. He's criticized a lot of things about me. Luckily, I'm leaving here in a couple months, but I just know that he'll try and get me to have a haircut before I go to college.

I have this Exact same problem.

My dad always harps on me about getting a haircut. I mean he's pretty rational, and I can tell him I don't need/want a haircut. I'm old enough now that he couldn't make me, but he could still be an ass about it.

I'm typically an avoidant personality, I would just avoid the topic, change the subject if you can.

Or just do what they said, Sure, Whatever. Vague answers that can't pin you down one way or the other.

So I don't feel useless:
Issues with parental control are complex and difficult to navigate. The best suggestion I can offer you all with my limited experience is that having an open, respectful conversation with them about how much happier you would be if you could keep your hair the way you liked it will work wonders! Maybe it won't, you never know, but can it hurt to try? Tell dad that you really would prefer to style your hair the way you want to style it.

It is difficult, I know this for sure. It's not like you can just sit and have the conversation and it will work out perfectly. But it might!

Anyway, I have an issue with insomnia/falling asleep. Even though I've gotten a consistent 5-6 hours of quality sleep the past four nights (each night, not cumulative, I'd be dead), and I'm tired as all hell from working on my feet 40 hours this week, I cannot fall asleep. I toss and turn and can't get comfortable.

ZU cool people, what are your sleeping habits? How do you fall asleep? What works for you, what doesn't? Do you have rituals? Are you the blessed type who jump in bed and pass out without effort? Does sleep come naturally to you, or no? Talk to me.

:3

I often get insomnia-days, they usually last for... a few days, then I pass out and sleep for 16-17 hours without waking up. So yeah, I know how you feel! Well, a bit.

Eating something warm and filling - but not too much! - usually helps a bit, so does a glass of warm milk; but anyway I wish I could help! I have no idea how to fix random insomnia attacks either. :'>

Listening to music has never helped me, it only makes me more active, I begin to concentrate and pay careful attention to what I'm listening to.

As a general rule, if I get up in reasonable time (between 6 and 10 AM), sleep will be dead easy that night.

I wonder if I should drop around $5k at the SJS equipment sale on Thursday....

Probably a bad idea right?

I feel empty inside. Worthless, boring, and useless. My life seems to have no purpose, and it hurts. I don't know what I should do to get rid of this feeling...
Help?

I felt similarly sometimes when I was your age.
I'm going to be honest, I'm not sure if it's just a funk you have to get through or whether trying to engage with people more might help, but know that things DO get better!
I know that's probably not what you want to hear, but try working on your attitude, try doing things outside your comfort zone, and maybe that will help.