08-29-2007, 09:04 PM
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Gerudo Thief
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Should I ask her?
OK, a while ago, I just had a really nasty breakup with a girl I met in an online videogame, but I got over it really quick, so just shove that aside.
But there's another girl, who I've known since middle school, and I realize that I've actually had a crush on her for a long time. But I'm afraid she might already be going out with one of my other friends. I've only seen them in a classroom together, and they were only talking, but I don't want to take a risk. How do I figure out if she's still single without prying too much, and if she is, how do I explain how I feel about her? She's really sweet, and she has the prettiest voice. Seriously, I feel like I'm melting when she says "hi". Can someone help me? |
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08-29-2007, 10:36 PM
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I had a similar problem, but I didn't do what I should've done (still not sure what that was)
I saw the girl in year 10, and liked her immediatly. On Valentine's Day of the next year I put a 'secret admirer' note in her locker, intending to tell her a bit later... on the 18th of May I told her, only to find out she had known since March! I tried to talk to her whenever I could, which was not very often due to my shyness, but at the end of the year, I found out that she already had a boyfriend. Nuts.
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08-30-2007, 05:39 AM
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I would've made a sexy chick.
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I'd suggest making friends with her first, I mean you can't know her very well, seeing as you don't even know if she's got a boyfriend already. Get to know her first, that's my advice.
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08-30-2007, 10:58 AM
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You really just need to talk to her. I saw this type of thing all the time in highschool. Just ask her.
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08-30-2007, 11:21 AM
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You should ask, you never know 'till you try.
Ps. we should bring back that love thread it seemed to be very popular.
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08-30-2007, 06:38 PM
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What lies ahead is not a dream.
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Who deleted my post? It was very insightful!
Like I said before (o: ), just ask her. I've had people just randomly come out and ask me things like that for no reason.
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08-30-2007, 06:55 PM
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 Talk to her about something she knows about i.e I heard your reading the book_______. Is it good? |
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08-30-2007, 07:25 PM
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Well my advice to you is tell her....''can we talk for a minute example lisa I want t kno more about you"...So wats it going to be...if she says yes then...This is how you continue the conversation you say Lisa your the only girl my hearts beat fo,why?I dont kno,but the things you do makes me feel so complete inside..oh and did I forget to tell you how lovely you look today...and how come sometimes when iam near you,you hardly even notice me...even after the smiles I tend to do when I see you doesnt that tell you I adore you Lisa........So wats it gonna be...
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08-30-2007, 07:55 PM
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08-30-2007, 08:06 PM
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If not, the most important thing you need to do is become her friend. Anything you can do to accomplish this, do it. It's vital. You can not simply wish you were her friend and stare at her from afar every day.
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08-30-2007, 08:39 PM
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Yeah ask her.. I was in a similar situation where I had a huge crush on a girl... I found out she was a senior and I was a sophomore and now she is in college and I will never see her again.....
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08-31-2007, 08:18 PM
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Gerudo Thief
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I just don't know how to tell if she's available or not. I can't just go up and say, "Hey, are you seeing anyone?" She might get the wrong idea. And I don't want to spy, because if I get caught, that'll ruin any chances of us being together at all. *sighs* I'm just no good with this girl stuff. |
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09-01-2007, 09:12 AM
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If you'd want to know, you could try this: Bring up in casual conversation the topic about relationships with someone who you think will know. Casually say say something about the two of them dating, if they aren't going out, you will be corrected. Or you could say you like this girl but you don't know hwo to talk to her. (speak to who you think is her boyfriend) Say "How did you ask ??? out?" Again, if you are corrected, then they aren't going out. But I still suggest getting to know her better. It would be much better to hear it from her.
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09-01-2007, 10:41 AM
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How hard is it to ask "are you and ___ dating or what?" >__>
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09-01-2007, 12:55 PM
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Go up to the dude you think she might be dating and ask him.
Guys talking to guys is a lot easier than guys talking to girls. Or at least that's how it is for me. >_> |
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09-01-2007, 03:25 PM
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a DRAGON MAN at heart
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<_< >_> Anyways... I find it quite funny that if a guy and a girl talk, speculation ensues about whether or not they may be dating. On the grounds that you believe her and him to be dating, people could rightfully think you were gay, because of any male friends you have. So does family gatherings spell incest? Do phone calls mean dirty talk? Do IM's mean cyber sex? My point is that there is very little chance they are dating, (on the terms you have explained) so don't get all down on a small chance.
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09-01-2007, 08:00 PM
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09-01-2007, 11:39 PM
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If your in high school, just get up and ask her. If your in highschool and you like a chick, nobody is queer to you at all. If she doesnt like you, it sucks but youll have to get over it. You cant wait around and let a chance pass you by. You can do it, theres no reason to be embarrassed about liking someone. Besides, if she doesnt like you, its not the end of the world, trust me.
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09-02-2007, 12:35 PM
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My sister told me that girls will more often than not, if they are single, say yes, because they can see how it goes, and if it is bad they can just break up. So my advice to you is just go for it, go outside of your comfort zone. |
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09-02-2007, 12:56 PM
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Yet you still feed us lies from the tablecloth
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Has anyone mentioned this yet? Ask your "friend" if he's having some relationship with her. Even if he's saying yes or no, try being her friend and get to know her better. Sooner or later, if she dumps your amigo, you can have a chance....
Ok, not really like that. I once had the HUGEST crush on a girl that moved at the same time as me (both of us were seven). WE saw each other often, but it started going on less and less each year. I even talked about it on the forums, and one day, one of her so-called "friends" asked me who I liked in the class. I thought she was trustworthy, so I said her name. You know what happened next? She announced it on a school dance, and she left dissapointed. Guess what happened next? Her "friend" then said it was my idea to announce it. Her "friend" was seriously jelous that I liked her, because of the fact that I'm a favourite around the school as the jester. It got worse: her friend made her brother spread rumors (I hated that child ever since), threw eggs at her house on Halloween, and worst of all, they even hacked into her msn and displayed her dp into some pornographic shot (I wasn't there, but she was crying when I got to school and it was on the announcememnts). She finally moved and I seriously missed her. I looked for her address for almost 6 months, and finally, one of my good friends, happened to have her new msn and we ended up meeting up! She was pretty happy to see me, and we started too see each other more often, until about a month ago, she said she got a boyfriend. I was jealous, and she didn't know it. I haven't talked to her since, but I just want to call her when the time is right...  That's a weird story. Why should you bother listening? Just start some good friendship with her. It's like that one episode of Family Guy, when Brian had a crush on Lois: "We should cherish the things we have now, like our unbreakable friendship". Well, try it. I hope it helps...
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09-02-2007, 03:11 PM
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I'd say either ask the guy you suspect or someone who may know if they are. Or maybe one of her friends. It's not too hard to find out those things if you just ask people and don't act like you care too much. Then if they go "Oooo so you like her?" then don't deny it because it's obvious. Just be like "ok sure (sarcastically), I was just wondering since they act like it so much".
So yeah that's basically all you need to do. I wouldn't ask her, just either her friends or the guy himself. Then you could just do what I said (unless you know something better) and that's it. It doesn't seem that hard. |
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09-02-2007, 10:18 PM
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What lies ahead is not a dream.
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WHY IS THIS STILL IN THE TEMPLE OF KNOWLEDGE
mz's idea is good. Ask your friend if they're dating.
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09-03-2007, 05:42 AM
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If it's so hard to ask her if she's dating anyone, then you're screwed if you end up wanting to ask her out.
BE A MAN. ;D |
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09-06-2007, 06:31 PM
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Gerudo Thief
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I asker her the other day. She's already seeing somebody else. I'm not really upset; I'm actually happy for her, and the guy lucky enough to have her. I'm just mad at myself for not getting up the nerve to ask sooner.
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09-06-2007, 07:37 PM
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If you really want to do it the hard way, you can ask casually. "So, um...have you taken that History test yet? Was it hard?" "[Her response here]" "Ouch. Hm...so, you got a boyfriend?" Or, you can do it grade-school style and send one of your friends to ask her. |
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