Teenage/Regular Romance

Teenage Romance, some people would say its a waste, some think it leads to something bad. Post your thoughts on it. I dont see anything wrong with teenage romance seeing as i have a girlfriend and im 13, teenage romance right there. Some people think the problem is that some teenage romances lead to the girl being pregent around age 17 or 18 and the parents of the boy and girl throw them out. So anyway dicuss about teenage or other romance.

teenage relationships are fine, as long as the couple doesn't take them too seriously, they must understand that as teenagers, their emotions are usually off balance, and things won't always go as planned. The couple must be willing to see eachother, and that sex is not the goal, but love.

Now, personally, I don't see teenage relationships (13-16) really going anywhere, during those years it's all about practice, knowing yourself and the other sex better, after 17, if you want to get serious, by all means go ahead, once your out of highschool your old enough (legally too) to make your own desicions, if you want to go to college or not, get a job, future plans etc.

most teenage relationships suck. I would recommend not going out with anyone unless you really...i mean really...know them. there are some horrible jerks out there, and I had to find that out the hard way. So I recommend not going out with anyone unless you've known them for a while, because otherwise, it's not worth your time.
Sorry if that sounded harsh.

Well, I'm 13 and I've never had a boyfriend, which may change soon, but I have very mixed feelings about young relationships. On one hand, if it makes you happy, you learn about yourself from it, and gain valuable relationship skills... cool for you. That's great to have later on in life, apparently. But I also see a lot of really stupid stuff going on in my school- people "going out" for like a day, people getting into fights, I've personally had a lot of strain on my friendships, and they think that this is what a committed relationship has to be like. Correct me if I'm wrong, oh great elders of ZU who I am totally not sucking up to.

The edit to elaborate: I'm not so pseudo-smart about the more serious highschool relationships-- I'm personally more of a no sex before marriage/engagement/super long term relationship kinda person, so I don't like the idea of maybe gettting pregnany at 16 or something.

I am not trying to be offensive. Sorry if I sound offensive. I am 13 myself. I have no problem with teen relationships. But, teen girls, you should take note of something. Some teenage boys are messed up pervs. If they want you for your body, then you should dump him. If they like you for who you are, then things are probably fine. Perverted guys often lead their girlfriends into having sex. You don't have to have sex to love each other. Some teens think that it makes a relationship closer, but it doesn't. It usually leads them to breaking up.

Originally Posted by Moon Spirit

I am not trying to be offensive. Sorry if I sound offensive. I am 13 myself. I have no problem with teen relationships. But, teen girls, you should tak note of something. Some teenage boys are messed up pervs. If they want you for your body, then you should dump him. If they like you for who you are, then things are probably fine. Perverted guys often lead their girlfriends into having sex. You don't have to have sex to love each other. Some teens think that it makes a relationship closer, but it doesn't. It usually leads them to breaking up.

As a male, and having once been a thirteen year old myself, I completely understand what your saying. Its all true. Teenage boys' hormones are raging and they, being to immature to fully understand whats going on with their bodies, try to have sex as much as possible. They are horny little monsters, an I would advise most teenage girls to wait until they are 18 or so to start a relationship, and even then most men will probably only want sex from you, but atleast it will be when you are both "Legal". Once again, having been a 13 yr old boy, I have come to realize they are all pervs (well...most anyway).

I dont really care about such things becuse its not neccesary. I am 13 and I controll myself with that, I don't want to get in a relationship and am not planning to. I agree with moon spirit and cdx75xmx. males at this age will lose controll of themselfs. I dont want to start anything so close untill adult. I mean, you can still be freinds and say hi but just dont let that get you wantting sex.

Teenage romance isn't wrong. I encourage it, but not sex. It builds experience, for life earlier. See? I think just about everything you do is just gaining exp for the same thing that could happen later and just prepares you to handle it better.

Well as i said i have a girlfriend, and i have self control over what to do with her. So i would say that if you and your gf/bf have control over your realtionship and know how to a have a resonposible one then go for it

I don't really worry about love right now. I'm not even gonna try getting a girlfriend until I'm ready to get married, which won't be until I'm 21, at the earliest.

But there's nothing wrong with friends who are girls! In fact, they are good for you. It's always nice to have a female opinion...sometimes...

Originally Posted by ursername180

Lol.... I find it funny.

People always get dumped within 2 days!

Some teen relationships don't last that long. Earlier this month, I myself had a boyfriend. It only lasted ten days.

No, at least wait until you're 16 before you date. T
hen you might actually have a serious relationship.
Like my stupid friend. He has flaky relationships, and he records how long they last with a stopwatch.

And then he tries to call me stupid since I don't have a girlfriend.

Well Im 14 and I have been in and out of a few relationships, and yes I agree it does mess with your feelings. When I date someone I dont just do it casue their attractive, I also look for personality. I look inside that person and seriously think to myself, can I see myself marrying them. Im only 14 so marriage is quite a bit away, but I dont try and make all my relationships a waste.

In my opinion, it would be hard to have a relationship with a girl when you can't drive. That's why I'm waiting untill I'm 16. Besides, girls seem to like older men.

As long as a relationship is sincere and strong there is nothing wrong with it. The more you age and mature the more the relation will be serious. I am currently maintaining a relation with a girl that lives 12 hours drive from me. Its an obstacle but I find that relationship alot more serious than the ones I had when I was younger... It just depends on the persons involved and the sacrifices you are willing to make.

Well, I don't have a boyfriend currently, but I do like this one guy. I'm pretty sure he wouldn't like me just for sex. I mean I'm in middle school! No one thinks about that yet. Teenage relationships are fine though. I've known several people that they get into a relationship and the closest they get is hugging and holding hands. Although I think kissing is fine. There is nothing wrong as long as the two people are true to each other.

I didn't plan on posting here, but I think I should. I'm fourteen and I don't think teenage relationships are even safe. Date rape is more common in young people than old people and I really wouldn't trust myself to date someone.

Originally Posted by Wolfen

In my opinion, it would be hard to have a relationship with a girl when you can't drive. That's why I'm waiting untill I'm 16. Besides, girls seem to like older men.

Now, the one thing you seem to get is where relationships before the age of 16 are at least questionable - but your reasons! You need a car for a relationship? A car helps if you want to be somebody's money-supplying slave, but.. do we have any clue what the concept of a relationship is? Like the mutual liking and love thing? The kind one doesn't buy with gifts?
Otherwise, I know quite a few guys who "learned from their mistakes" after relationships with 2+ years younger girls.

Originally Posted by Elijah

No, at least wait until you're 16 before you date. T
hen you might actually have a serious relationship.
Like my stupid friend. He has flaky relationships, and he records how long they last with a stopwatch.

And then he tries to call me stupid since I don't have a girlfriend.

Nice. With a stop watch? He dosen't expect them to last does he?

The reason, I think, why younger girls and guys (like me) go through relationships so fast is because,1. We're afraid to commit 2. Want to experiment with other people 3. Didn't take the time to know the person's personality completely and realizes the person's personality sux and 4. (for shallow people) Thinks that the person they have now isn't as good looking as they think they could get.

These are some reasons. Some reason's young people break up so easily is because they've never actually loved their're boyfriend or girlfriend.

(I'm not saying no one never has I'm just giving some reasons)

Things to think about. By -RaccoonArtist

Everyone can make their own decisions. Teenagers can date whenever they want at any age they want. Just like everyone has their own opinion about teenagers dating and having romance with someone else.

I personally don't mind dating and I'm 14. I have a very romantical relationship with a guy I really love. But some teenagers don't make the right decisions and some guys are really perverted and a girl gets pregent. A girl may not be the smart one or the guy isn't or the guy is just a pevert seeking to get girls pregent.

Though, there ARE smart people out there who know better and that leads to a healthy and wonderful relationship. It all depends on the indidvidual person really. I may like having a romantic relationship at a teenager age, but others may not so it really doesn't matter.