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Many norms need to be remedied.
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Are you implying that a natural human biological function designed to serve humanity's ongoing goal: to preserve the species, is not a right that each and every one of us has?
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A lot of human biological functions are ones we regulate – the use of physical strength, to name but one.
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Who would judge whether or not a parent is "competent" enough to create life?
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A court upon application by people willing to be parents.
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Who's to say these judges would be "competent" enough to decide?
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The same people who say that judges are allowed to decide whether or not to grant a divorce or whether or not to have children taken away from parents.
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I also would think it very difficult to come up with a set of criteria to decide whether or not a woman is healthy and rich enough to give birth. And certainly you don't think a government would be anywhere near 100% accurate in determining who's fit to be a just fine mother and who's not.
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If a court is able to decide who shouldn’t be allowed to continue parenting, they could be capable of deciding who is allowed to start.
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This would take extensive research, more than the government has the time our resources to do, especially considering the ongoing preservation of the human species depends on said research being done quickly.
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It would be decided on a case-by-case basis upon application. Or hell, as was suggested in my thread, it could just be a case of any people wanting to be parents should be forced to go on a course first - not necessarily to take tests, but they should be forced to attend seminars or classes in which vital information will be given to them, and if they fail to pay attention, it would better justify actions taken when they are proven to be negligent.
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I understand why you would think this way. I am not a perfect, healthy human born to an entirely stable family. I have had my share of problems, but so have we all. Some poor kids do quite well. Some rich kids have a whole slew of problems and a miserable childhood. Most complications in a child's life are going to be unforeseen, with statistics having little bearing.
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It is a good indication however that incompetent people may be incompetent parents, and it is better to be safe than to be sorry.
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Yes, this would be quite difficult, seeing as every female in the world over the age of 13 or so would have to be monitored. I will also add, anyone who can't afford condoms is not a citizen in the western world.
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They wouldn’t have to be monitored any more than they are now – it’s more or less illegal for them to be having sex anyway but we don’t monitor them for that.
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Forgive me, I really do not understand your last sentence. The lower classes support, and greatly outnumber, the upper class.
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What I’m saying is that a lot of middle- or upper-class people take the view that benefits should not be given to the poor to support them in raising children. If we reduced the population to such a point that middle-class people would have to start sending their own children to do lower-class jobs, there might be more impetus among the upper classes to allow provision for poor families to have children so that they don’t have to do the legwork.
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You have two parents. Many of us don't.
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So I can’t complain if I get my arm blown off, because somewhere in the world someone has had both arms blown off. He can’t complain because somewhere in the world someone has had all their limbs blown off. He can’t complain because somewhere in the world someone has been blown to pieces and is now dead.
This fallacy that just because someone else is worse off doesn’t mean I’m not also in a bad position irritates me.
Further, having two people who hate each other remain in the same building as a child they're both trying to bring up may end up doing more harm to the child than if the parents were separate and either one trying to bring the child up on their own. It isn't good for a child if it's brought up in a hostile environment, so the assumption that two parents are always better than one is also fallacious.
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You have mistaken disdain toward your own parents for "incompetence" on their part.
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No, I have mistaken my disdain towards their incompetence for disdain towards their incompetence.
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My own mother is far from perfect. She still did her job (supporting me through childhood), and if you're using a home computer, on an internet forum, telling us you did well in school for twelve years and went to college, apparently so did yours.
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It was the school system in this country that taught me everything I needed to know in life. My parents were too stupid to, which is why I keep having to try and stop them from doing stupid things against their own interests. And they don’t listen to me, which is why they keep screwing themselves over. As I said, my parents never accounted for the possibility that I might actually succeed in life more than they have, so it certainly isn’t down to their best laid plans that I did.
Although I can thank them for never trying to give me "The Talk".
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You are far from the only person in the world who can't pay for college. May I recommend FAFSA?
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I would actually be in a far better position now than I would have been if I hadn’t had to pay all of my earnings last summer on dental fees, which I wouldn’t have had to pay if they hadn’t fostered bad habits in me from birth. I don’t mean they didn’t stop me, I mean they actually did not encourage me to brush my teeth properly and did not realize the harmful effects of the diet they allowed me to partake in and actually fed me. I had to consciously realize that **** was bad for me, by which point it was too late.
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I also ask did your parents neglect you enough to put your own life at risk? What exactly are you suffering from? Did it ever occur to you that you could report your supposed neglect to the government?
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I already stated that the negligence I suffered does not cross the legal threshold to be considered negligence by the legal authorities, which is wrong given that I suffer great physical and psychological pain every day because of it. Yes, there are people in worse positions, but see above for the example of injured soldiers as to why I’m not going to shut up just because of that.
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Correct me if I'm wrong, but I am under the impression that because you are unhappy with your own situation, you think that only children should be given life whose parents are perfect, happy, and rich. You wish you had been born to parents with more desirable personalities and more potent incomes. This is how the world is and nobody feels sorry for you.
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I know no one feels sorry for me, and I don’t expect them to. I expect them to understand that stupid people who are too poor to be able to give their children a decent chance in life shouldn’t be bringing a child into the world, because that child will suffer more than they will profit because of it. And they will be expected to buy into your mentality – “that’s just how the world is”. That’s why I hate my parents, and that’s why I have a problem with people like you. The reason there is injustice in the world is because people accept it as a natural part of life. People who accept injustice are the problem. People who can’t even IMAGINE that the world could be a different place to what it is are the problem. Throughout history humans have adapted the world around them to their needs, rather than adapting to the world around them and letting the hostile environment win, and suddenly we have people like you coming along and saying “that’s what the world is like – deal with it”.
Earlier in your post you tried to appeal to human nature, and it is human nature to change the world around them when it doesn’t suit them. It is human nature to try and make the world a better place for us to live in - and not having children because of our own selfish need to validate our own existence by thinking we can give our little genetic offspring all the things we never had (when we can't) would be a good start.
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Forgive me Lord Zero, I didn't see you are Welsh. Maybe there is some equivalent of FAFSA in Wales, maybe not. You can still take student loans for some extra money.
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For the bar course, I can't. I can only take a standard Career Development Loan or a Bar Loan which are both a lot of money which I might not be able to pay back if I can't get a job immediately after finishing it. And I don't want to have to put my parents in the position of carrying any part of the burden of the bar course for me - the less I owe them, the more justified I'll be in finally cutting them off if they continue to think they can behave they way they do when I no longer have to rely on them.