Sex before marriage

What do you guys think about the whole sex before marriage?

I think it's reasonable to have sex before marriage. To an extent.
The idea of a one-night-stand is very unappealing to me. I'm one of those uncool people that thinks you should only have sex if you're in love. You shouldn't be having it with a random person you picked up/were picked up by at a nightclub.

Well, that's my opinion. Feel free to tell me why I'm wrong. Or share your own thoughts. That works too.

Originally Posted by Shadow_Aura_64

What do you guys think about the whole sex before marriage?

I think it's reasonable to have sex before marriage. To an extent.
The idea of a one-night-stand is very unappealing to me. I'm one of those uncool people that thinks you should only have sex if you're in love. You shouldn't be having it with a random person you picked up/were picked up by at a nightclub.

Well, that's my opinion. Feel free to tell me why I'm wrong. Or share your own thoughts. That works too.

You don't have to be married to be in love you know. So, I disagree with no sex before marriage, however, if you want to ave yourself for the person you think you want to commit to, and give them the honor of having you first, that's just fine too.

Originally Posted by Flames of Valor

You don't have to be married to be in love you know.

That's my point. I just meant that you should only have sex if you love the person, but you don't have to be married.

I guess I should have worded that better...

Originally Posted by Shadow_Aura_64

That's my point. I just meant that you should only have sex if you love the person, but you don't have to be married.

I guess I should have worded that better...

If you acknowledged this, why didn't you make the name of your thread different? XD

Just wondering, you don't think people should be having sex simply for pleasure?

Sex before marriage =/= jumping into bed with a different partner each night.

I'm in a relationship and have sex before marriage, with my one (and so far only partner). We've also been together for several years, but cannot get married so easily due to living in different countries. We're working on it so I can gain residency here in Australia, but all in all, with how we've stuck together for so long, we feel comfortable enough with our decisions and are willing to make this work. It might take a few more years before we're financially secure enough to be able to get married andget a house, but... why wait that long before enjoying ourselves? We can look after ourselves.

Originally Posted by Flames of Valor

Just wondering, you don't think people should be having sex simply for pleasure?

I see it as kind of immoral. I'm just lame like that.

Immoral indeed.

I used to be like that. I just wanted to know how it felt. Thank God that still has yet to happen.

As for me, I suppose you could if you feel you truly love the individual. But I myself plan to AFTER I'm married. Whenever that's going to happen.

Tough question. While I'm mostly against it if I deeply love the person and have already proposed to them(and they said yes) then maybe. Still I'll probably wait until the wedding night to make sure that this person truly loves me and I truly love them.

Originally Posted by Shadow_Aura_64

I see it as kind of immoral. I'm just lame like that.

Why immoral? Why shouldn't one have sex for pleasure?

'Cause that's not its ONLY purpose. Yet, people use it as such.

Originally Posted by Raddy

'Cause that's not its ONLY purpose. Yet, people use it as such.

Yeah, what he said.
Sex shouldn't be used for recreation.

Sex for pleasure eh. Well i'm kinda iffy on that. I mean sure the act is usually described as pleasurable but I still don't think that's a reason to just go and sleep with random people. To me sex between two individuals is the deepest way of showing their undying love for one another which is why I will probably maintain my virginity until I get married.

Originally Posted by Oni Dark Link

To me sex between two individuals is the deepest way of showing their undying love for one another which is why I will probably maintain my virginity until I get married.

That's an awfully risky investment though, isnt it? What if your partner is simply absolutely unsatisfactory, sexually? There has to be something said for testing out the goods before you buy.

hyper: Okay why does it sound like you're in favor of treating your partner as an object just to fulfull your needs? Sorry if I'm jumping to conclusions here but that's what it sound like you're saying. Anyway If I loved them enough then I wouldn't care. And it goes both ways if a woman that I loved ever held that against me than I would drop them immediately.

Oni, no, I don't advocate treating anyone as an object. My post was totally serious, however. It truly is prudent to understand the entirety of a relationship status before commiting to it. For myself, I would want a relationship to be fufilling in every regard. Sexually, absolutely of high importance.

Hyper: Okay good because based on your post I wasn't sure. Still if I loved the person dearly enough then I wouldn't mind. Plus considering that would be my only sexual experience how should I know whether or not they're good or bad in bed?

Originally Posted by Oni Dark Link

Plus considering that would be my only sexual experience how should I know whether or not they're good or bad in bed?

Couldn't help but laugh at that.

I feel the same way, in a way. But I already have an idea, so to speak.

^Thats exactly my point, Oni. If you don't know what they are like in that regard (and I suppose, as an extension, what you are after), then you are commiting to quite an unknown.

Hyper: While I see where you're coming from I don't believe the basis for a relationship is sex so I'll have to disagree about it's importance. Whether or not my spouse is virginal is something I can't control but if she isn't and doesn't find me as "good" as her previous relationship yet she still stays with me would tell me that she truly loves me.

^ That's what I believe. That right there.

I already knew my first "girlfriend" wasn't. And knew that she would have wanted it, and was the main goal on her mind. Which is sad, because it was on mine as well. (Not CONSTANTLY, mind you, but still.)

Now, that's changed to only after married, and ready. (Although, as things stand, might be too soon. Depends, really.)