I think that the problem is less of a "developers aren't making games for women" one, but more of a "developer are making games for dude bro fratboys" problem. Developers aren't appealing to me anymore than they are to women. The problem isn't one of man vs. woman, but one of an industry focusing an inordinate amount of effort on a niche genre. As for the lack of realistic depictions of women in gaming, yes that is true, but its just as true as the lack of realistic depictions of men.
-men, being realistically portrayed.
Typically men are portrayed as either super soldiers or at the very least more macho than the average man, rarely do you see an ordinary guy in a game. So yes, women are portrayed inaccurately, as are men.
Much like the depiction of men in general commercials, men in gaming commercials are depicted as at best boorish oafs and at worst a drooling moron that can't even feed himself. Just look at the average commercial, the man is always the idiot and the women is either the voice of reason (if the ad is targeted towards women), or a sex object (if the ad is targeted towards men.) This is equally the case in video game commercials, but because the vast majority of gaming is targeted towards dude bro males, you're not likely to see the "voice of reason" archetype and are left with "the sex object" or simple no depiction at all.
I don't believe games should be made specifically for women, nor do I believe they should be made specifically for men. Just make games. Hell the concept of a women's game is demeaning in itself because it imposes norms regarding what is meant for men and what is meant for women. What is a woman's game are Fallout, Elder Scrolls or Saints Row, Mass Effect games for women? Why not? Your characters can be men or women and as "realistic" as you choose. Does a woman's game necessarily have to have a female protagonist? In that case Metroid is not a man's game and solely for women.
The whole distinction between man's and woman's game is just ridiculous to me.