Love vs. Money

Originally Posted by Mr Spork

At first upon reading the question, the stock-standard 'love' answer came to mind quickly. But then I really thought about it and realised that the answer of 'love' is pretty selfish if you think about the answer in a different way.

Money might not be able to buy you happiness, that's true, but if you were pulling in 'super amounts of money every two days' then you could do a lot to help other people's happiness. You could buy insane amounts of food and clothing for the poor, for example. You could use your wealth to buy your way into influential political groups and pressure the people in power to do good things in the world. You could supply materials for people to have access to clean drinking water in all corners of the world. You could help people supply much needed vaccines.

Thousands, maybe millions, maybe billions, of people's lives would be better off and all it would cost you is your personal romantic happiness.

That is true. It depends on what you do with the money. It also depends on the person - some are very empathetic, others not.

Bah, why can't I have both? Ah well. I will someday become a doctor and make a lot of mula, but if I had to choose.....Love it would be.

In option two your rich with no chance of love but with option one you get love and you still have a chance to be rich or at least live a modest life style which is fine with me. I choose love.

I want both obviously.

Sometimes I fantasize about being one of those card counters who can go in on a weekend and walk away with 50 g's.

Then i could work at starbucks and be a secret rich person.
No one need ever know that I have serious monayz.

Neither. I'd rather have a career I enjoy but not be in love than be in love without a career.

^and that is exactly why I'm so frustrated with careerist girls.

(no offense to you alonely)

Yeah this is a silly question in my view. Clearly the only answer is the money, providing it's a job worth having and not like, professional toilet cleaner.

I can't buy happiness but I can buy suitable alternatives.

Originally Posted by Erasmus

^and that is exactly why I'm so frustrated with careerist girls.

What, because they haven't got time for you?

Originally Posted by Lord Zero

What, because they haven't got time for you?

No, because after two years spending time with them and being intimate it's suddenly time to switch grad-schools or jobs and then long distance becomes an obvious no, so the inevitable end comes crashing down around me--like a descending wall of broken bricks, emotional bombardment--in a seemingly arbitrary manner which I somehow never am able to prevent.

It sucks.

I prefer money.

Relationships are dumb and always end in flames.

Originally Posted by Lord Zero

Yeah this is a silly question in my view. Clearly the only answer is the money, providing it's a job worth having and not like, professional toilet cleaner.

I can't buy happiness but I can buy suitable alternatives.



What, because they haven't got time for you?

Umm, I like cleaning things, thank you very much...

Originally Posted by Kefka

I prefer money.

Relationships are dumb and always end in flames.

Depends on your chemistry with the other person, really...

Originally Posted by Erasmus

No, because after two years spending time with them and being intimate it's suddenly time to switch grad-schools or jobs and then long distance becomes an obvious no, so the inevitable end comes crashing down around me--like being emotionally bombarded by a proverbial wall of broken bricks--in a seemingly arbitrary manner which I somehow never am able to prevent.

It sucks.

I can do long distance.

But it would be long distance with someone with a career. I don't ever want to find a guy who's so focused on finding love that his career is on a back burner.

Originally Posted by Alonely

I can do long distance.

But it would be long distance with someone with a career. I don't ever want to find a guy who's so focused on finding love that his career is on a back burner.

In my opinion, life withjout love has little point to it. Love is natural, but career is man-made community stuff.

^ Eh, I'd argue that for some, the need to be in a relationship is just as much a social construction as the need to have a career. After all, it's natural to want to feel capable and independent, and also to set goals, and having a career is a part of that for many people.

I think I'd choose money over love. For one thing, as has already been said, there are a variety of ways I could choose to spend this money - I could not only ensure complete financial security for myself and my family, but also help out those who are in serious need. And I'm really not that fussed about ever being in a relationship.

Originally Posted by Astarael

^ Eh, I'd argue that for some, the need to be in a relationship is just as much a social construction as the need to have a career. After all, it's natural to want to feel capable and independent, and also to set goals, and having a career is a part of that for many people.

I think I'd choose money over love. For one thing, as has already been said, there are a variety of ways I could choose to spend this money - I could not only ensure complete financial security for myself and my family, but also help out those who are in serious need. And I'm really not that fussed about ever being in a relationship.

Meh, matter of person desires, you could say. Some don't feel secure in life if they don't feel love, and that can cause problems with depression and the likes.

In my case, I don't really care about me family with the excpetion of a few people, so I find my love in relationship. But some some, lonliness can be the key to depression, which is not good for mental health. But if you're interested in money, you probably already have quite a big, loving family, so you feel less need for a relationship.

Neither.

I don't give a damn about money. I'd be perfectly happy living in a little one-bedroom apartment making enough to buy food and books and maybe go out for a beer every once in a while.

I don't give a damn about love. I've never been in a relationship. I don't see this changing any time soon. Even if it does, I doubt it would happen as a result of an arbitrary choice or be worth making one over.

Originally Posted by Potent Col

Love is natural, but career is man-made community stuff.

Questionable. To be honest, I'd say that career's and such like are more natural than love. For one, humans are essentially pack animals, and because of that a heirachy structure is second nature to us. The boss gives the orders, and the other guys go find wood, or kill innocent animals, or what have you. The career community we have today is essentially the same, except you're allowed to choose what you do to some extend, and the rewards are bits of paper, not food.

Love, on the other hand is arguably not natural. Humans aren't really meant for longevity. Ideally we're supposed to have children by 14 or 15, and grandchildren before we die at 30. Only superior technology etc. has allowed us to live longer. Love is much more a modern concept than careers. Before that sex was pretty much for reproduction only, or marriage was to do with status. Heck, look at arranged marriages. It still happens today.

Originally Posted by uǝzoɹɟ

Questionable. To be honest, I'd say that career's and such like are more natural than love. For one, humans are essentially pack animals, and because of that a heirachy structure is second nature to us. The boss gives the orders, and the other guys go find wood, or kill innocent animals, or what have you. The career community we have today is essentially the same, except you're allowed to choose what you do to some extend, and the rewards are bits of paper, not food.

Love, on the other hand is arguably not natural. Humans aren't really meant for longevity. Ideally we're supposed to have children by 14 or 15, and grandchildren before we die at 30. Only superior technology etc. has allowed us to live longer. Love is much more a modern concept than careers. Before that sex was pretty much for reproduction only, or marriage was to do with status. Heck, look at arranged marriages. It still happens today.

What you mean is that sexual love is natural rather than emotional love? True, as if it wasn't for sexual love, humans wouldn't be born in the first place to even hunt for food.

Being a college student, money plz. Love is already there with your friends, your family, and when you have enough money, you pretty much can get your significant other. After all, name me one first date that didn't involve spending cash. Face it, the only way you can really woo that girl you're infatuated with is if you can spend your money in such a way that is romantic!

Love is an emotion after all. An overrated, over-marketed, over-hyped, and over-dramatized emotion. Money is something that can drive you to greed yes, but it's also good for buying yourself a house, utilities, higher education, food, transportation, and charity. Love can't get you food or clean water. (you know, things you need to survive!) Love can't get you an apartment. Love can't get you into that college you've been trying to get into and unless you're offering to sell your dignity, love can't get you around town or even across the country!

Originally Posted by Potent Col

In my opinion, life withjout love has little point to it. Love is natural, but career is man-made community stuff.

Surely you've been able to enjoy yourself without codependence.

i would choose love