My friend just died.

This morning she was alive, posting weird pictures of Facebook and being a goofball, and about 5 hours ago... she died. Just like that.

I heard the ambulance from my house, but I had no idea that it had been my friend that was in that horrific car accident. Didn't even cross my mind. But I soon got a text message that changed my life.

She's gone. Forever. I'll never see her again.

I haven't cried yet. I don't know how. I just feel empty inside, like there's nothing there and nothing to cry out. I don't know how to feel better, and it's almost like I don't want to. I feel like my life is over.

Has anyone else had experiences like this? Please share. It may make me feel better.

Luckily for me, none of my closest friends have died. The stronger the bond with the person, the sadder you get. I've heard that it's better just to "let it all out", but I when I wanted to cry... that was never a problem.

I am very sorry to hear of this great lost. I hope you and your friend's family can become happy once more.

I didn't cry the first hour after my mother died! I actually think its a pretty natural reaction, even if it doesn't seem natural to you at first. Shock more than anything I reckon!

Anyway, yup that's life for ya. You know how people tell you the pain goes? It doesn't.

My grandfather died a few years ago of cancer. It was so hard to believe, because he was like my father. He tought me everything I know, and I was devestated to hear the news. So yeah, I'm not a stranger to the empty feeling.

There is no reason for you to cry -- apart from the social conditioning. Everyone handles it in a different way. Personally, everytime a close friend dies I become overbearingly trusting in those who are close to me and ask someone entirely innapropriate to go kite flying or something.

Just take it easy, and keep it real -- we learn a lot about ourselves in times like this. Be someone you can be proud of.

I'm sorry for your loss... but hey, that's life, y'know? Here a minute, gone the next. It's alright to grieve, but don't let this affect you too badly or for too long, I'm sure your friend wouldn't want that.

My father died around a year ago this time but it hasn't been a year, it gets worse and worse tbh and you won't cry yet but if you see anything that reminds you of them you will just burst out but eventually things will get better, just be patient and normal don't try to hold it in else you'll end up getting depressed. I will pray for you and your friend in this time of need.
-Happy Mask Man

I'll be honest with you so you don't even up like me: if you haven't cried, go buy yourself some marijuana/alcohol and cry your heart out. It's not good to bottle that stuff up.

I agree, it's not good to bottle it up, but everyone handles things differently, so don't think of yourself as being somehow less humane if you don't cry immediately.

My condolences to you.

Originally Posted by Marshmallow Moo

I haven't cried yet. I don't know how. I just feel empty inside, like there's nothing there and nothing to cry out.

Perfectly normal.

Indeed, some people never cry, they just go numb and eventually go back to, er, normal. It's not incredibly common, but it's not that rare, either.

I was close to my grandfather, I didn't cry when he died.

I don't know how to feel better, and it's almost like I don't want to. I feel like my life is over.

This is important: It isn't over. Alright? Talk to someone about this. Family, other friends, whoever. It helps, even though it's ludicrously hard to do.

Indeed, some people never cry, they just go numb and eventually go back to, er, normal. It's not incredibly common, but it's not that rare, either.

I was close to my grandfather, I didn't cry when he died.

Thats what happened to me when my grandfather died. I was very close to him. Instead of going nuts, i just sat down and watched mindless television because thinking was too difficult. I cried at the service though.
Marshmallow, im really sorry to hear that. *hugs*

You are in shock right now, and your brain doesn't know how to process it yet, it will come soon. I'm sorry for your loss, I don't know what I would do if my best friend died.

Well, it just happened today. Like others have said, you are still in shock.
If you are going to cry(if you are the crying type), it probably just hasn't hit you yet.

I am very sorry for your loss dear. Truly, I give my condolences. I would be heart-broken if a close friend of mine died :<

I am truly sorry to hear that.

However, don't worry; eventually things will return to normal. A new friend could fill that empty space.

Pretend they never existed. Sure, it sounds heartless now, but it works.

One thing you can do is be grateful for the time you had with her.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

I haven't experienced someone close to me dying, but I hope you recover from this. Not crying is normal, you're still sucking it in and it's hard to believe. One minute they're happy and goofy, then the next minute...they're gone.

Again, I'm really sorry to hear about your loss.

My goodness. I don't have the words, nor does anyone to describe the feeling of loss. I hope you remember the good days with her. Just remember, she isn't gone. As long as she stays within your heart, she's always with you. Make her proud, keep going. Because I'm sure that she wouldn't want for you to grieve for her too long. Be strong for her. I'll pray for you and your friend.
That's how I felt with someone I lost. Good luck.

A friend of mine died in middle school in 7th grade.
One night she fell asleep and never woke up. She didn't do drugs or alcohol either.
It was the weirdest thing to ever happen to me.

And my friends dad died in a mortorcycle accident.
It was tragic.

Originally Posted by John

Perfectly normal.

Indeed, some people never cry, they just go numb and eventually go back to, er, normal. It's not incredibly common, but it's not that rare, either.

I was close to my grandfather, I didn't cry when he died.

I recently experianced a death of someone I talk to. Granted, I didn't know her very well, but I know her half-brother well enough, so I was sad for him as well.

Anyway, I easily get shaken up when somone I've know, even only slightly, dies. I tend to act much like what John said, except I don't go numb, I just retreat from the world and reflect on things. Granted, if I need to be in the moment, like working in the machine shop, I'll be there... but in the back of my mind I'm still musing.

You see, although I am sad, I tend to not show it. I blame social conditioning and my history of buing bullied. If I showed them I was sad, they knew it was getting to me... anyway, off tangent... I just keep telling myself that they wouldn't want me to get depressed and too sad over them. I mean, they're free of pain and worldly conserns, but I'm sure they still worry for us. (If you buy into the afterlife thing. If not, they're worm chow.)

All in all, I am sorry to hear of your loss. The death of anyone you know, especially a close friend, can be difficult to deal with.