Ever had to let go of a friend?

Regrettably, my dear friend Quinn is supposed to be moving away to North Carolina or something before the summer's over. I'm really, bummed, and even though we can keep in touch, I'll really miss him. He was such a bro to me, even though we've only known each other a year. Seems so long ago...

Has anyone else had to deal with the loss of a dear friend? Any tips on coping with it? Stories encouraged. Discuss.

I just told my old best friend to go die in a fire a few days ago, because he turned into a complete a-hole. :]

It's bound to happen once.

yea, my best mate that I've known for 9 years just left town last week and probably won't be back here ever.

It's convenient that I just happened to find a girl that I enjoy spending time with right before he left. She keeps my mind off of missing my best friend.

A lot of friends I used to have I never see anymore.

Yes I have...I miss you porfirio heriberto pompeio

When i was about 9 or 10, my best friend moved to Jordan (she was a military brat and it was during the Gulf War). I never saw her again.

A few people i was friends with in highschool faded into obscurity.

Originally Posted by Discussion

A lot of friends I used to have I never see anymore.

Yeah, same here. Some of my old friends moved away from my home town, and I never or rarely saw them again. I eventually moved on, and found ne friends.

My first and closest friend moved away when I was still in grade school. Even though we met years later, we were never that close again.

I was friends with three brothers, but when their family moved away, I never saw them again.

I was good friends with someone who was a few years older than me, but we grew apart. About the only thing we did when I went over there was play basketball, which I didn't always enjoy. Also he got a job that took up a good bit of time. So I stopped visiting.

I met one new guy, and we hung out at his family's property, which was pretty big. He introduced me to another guy, and though we didn't hit it off too well at first, we eventually became close. Now the first friend is off fighting in the war, and the second is living out of town with his mother.

This happened after my parents and I moved out of town. I've made new frineds, but I'm not as social as I used to be. Losing old friends andhopefully making new ones is just part of life.

Yup. this happens to me at least once a year- a loss of a friend/friends.
The switch from each year of grade school to the next I would loose some friends due to them moving away or switching classes/tracks/schools.
It always sucks =/

Now that I have graduated I have lost a lot of my friends. They all went off to college or found jobs somewhere or something. Sad face.

But I still keep in touch with many of my closer friends. And I still have friends who live here who haven't been able to move away yet or don't want to.
I don't know, friends come and go.

There are only a few that I have now that I know I will still have 20 years down the line. Unless they or I die. They are too important for me to loose contact with. So I will try my best! =)

I'm pretty bad at keeping in touch, so when I or a friend ends up moving somewhere, I generally quite sadly lose touch with them. I used to blame myself and get down about it for not making more of an effort, and I guess I still scold myself about it sometimes. But I have realized that it is a two way street and it isn't all my fault.

Like when I graduated high school. I've kept in touch with maybe four or five friends, see maybe a dozen once or twice a year, and lost touch with almost everyone else I was friends with. This pretty much applies every time I switched schools growing up to the friends who went to other schools. I've also just lost friends because we've drifted apart and lost touch because of changing interests or whatever.

I also have lost touch with pretty much everyone that I was on a summer trip to the UK with back when I was in high school. I thought I'd made like 34 life-long friends, and I've only seen like two or three of them since, and only like once a year if that.

When I was in the third grade my best friend moved to Belgium for two years. Then he came back in fifth and left again after that permanently. Since his family still has family here sometimes they come visit, and since our families are close we see them. I also went and stayed with him right before ninth grade for awhile. Though now he goes to school at Cambridge and his parents have moved to Vancouver. Whenever they visit we hang out, but we don't really talk other than that. We used to talk every Saturday on msn when we were younger though.

Probably the saddest story that involves me losing a friend doesn't even have to do with the friend moving away. I was best friends with this kid from the seventh to ninth grades. Then December of grade nine, he had an accident. He was cleaning his roof, and a raccoon ran by and scared him. He slipped and fell three stories down. He broke a bunch of bones (had to go through physo-therapy), and also lost a lot of his memory. He didn't remember me. Didn't remember any of our other friends. It was really rough. I visited him a bunch in the hospital and in therapy, and when he came back to school he hung with us for awhile.

But I guess he never felt like he fit in anymore. We had known each other for a good while, the newest friends in our 'group' had already been a part of it for five or six months at that point. And to him we were all strangers. So he kind of drifted away, and had some new friends.

And I guess it just sucks that a guy who used to be my best friend became a guy that I'd just sort of nod at as I walked by in the hall.

I moved to England (almost indefinitely) and had to say goodbye to all of my friends (not knowing if I'd ever move back.) Also, I've fallen out with friends before, and I'd have to say that the prior is much less emotional than the latter. Falling out usually leaves a bitter taste, while saying goodbye is just sad until you realize that it's bound to happen and it's time to move on.

When I moved from San Diego to Grand Rapids I lost all of my friends there, but I guess it wasn't as big of a deal because I was only 9.

I've also lost a couple friends that I used to have even though they still go to school with me - they ended up becoming friends with people that I don't like very much at all, and turning into more like them.

Yeah, I had this friend who lived with me for awhile, since he needed a place to crash for a bit, he was so awesome, like a bro to me actually. Then he moved away to Texas. D: I still keep in touch with him, and hopefully get to see him again, but it really sucks.

Originally Posted by Link20045

Regrettably, my dear friend Quinn is supposed to be moving away to North Carolina or something before the summer's over. I'm really, bummed, and even though we can keep in touch, I'll really miss him. He was such a bro to me, even though we've only known each other a year. Seems so long ago...

Has anyone else had to deal with the loss of a dear friend? Any tips on coping with it? Stories encouraged. Discuss.

Get in touch with him somehow and tell him to stay the hell away from North Carolina. Nobody wants to live here.

On-topic: I've had to let go of a friend before. He met a guy named Nathan and never voluntarily hung out with me again.

Back in middle school I had a best friend with whom I had a lot in common with, we were really inseparable back then. And then one day, because I was going to another friends' Halloween party and not her friends', she did a complete 180 and decided to make my life a living hell. (pulling my hair, taking my lunchbox and chucking in down a crowded hallway, telling me I'm worthless, you, know, the works!) I completely cut her out of my life for that, and to this day I'm still boggled as to why she did that, we both didn't have many friends back in middle school, and I was her closest friend!

Sometimes, crap happens, and relationships change.
Now that I'm older I know when a relationship is bad, and when it'd be a good idea to back away a bit.
There are a few friends I had in high school that have changed for the better, and some for the worse. I make the choice to remain close with those I know will be there for me and vice-versa.

In this day and age networking sites like Facebook definitely help with keeping in touch with old buddies from high school.

Well, my piano teacher died a few years back. And now that I'm going to college, I probably won't see any (save one or two) of my current friends again, but we weren't really that close anyway.

One of my best friends moved away. She's still in the same province as me, but I don't really see her much. We talk on MSN and things like that, but she's not on as much anymore.

I really, really miss her. She was (and still is) really nice.

Yeah, and when I did he fell off the building.

Sometimes when a friend moves on, it can have a huge impact on the entire circle. Not just the individuals, but the group as a whole. With Quinnley gone, I have no doubt that either somebody else will have to step up to lead, or the whole thing will fall to pieces. Most likely it will have to be me. Quinn kept us all from killing each other ever since he arrived. He was not only my close friend, but I would follow him to hell and back. He was a leader and a brother. And he shall be dearly missed.

Originally Posted by Link20045

Regrettably, my dear friend Quinn is supposed to be moving away to North Carolina or something before the summer's over. I'm really, bummed, and even though we can keep in touch, I'll really miss him. He was such a bro to me, even though we've only known each other a year. Seems so long ago...

Has anyone else had to deal with the loss of a dear friend? Any tips on coping with it? Stories encouraged. Discuss.

Nothing you can do really....... Unless you are firm on the decision of visiting each other every now and then. It's all just the wonders of growing up. My best friend lives at the top of South Carolina. i live at the bottom. Yet, we still make time to hang out every now and then. When we get time that works for our schedules, we plan stuff to do. =]

When you truely care for a friend you do whats best for them, reguardless of how it makes ourselves feel, that is in the end what its about.
Ive let a number of close friends go, some I keep in contact with on msn and such but its never really the same but life does go on and things always change and adapt, and to qoute a Happy Mask Salesman

"Whenever there is a meeting a parting is sure to follow.
However this parting need not last forever...
Whether a parting be forever or a short time...
That is up to you."