How do guys feel...

Okay, so one of my girl friend's is in a relationship with some sweetheart hottie, but she's kinda aggressive (in a good way). She's kinda the dominant one in the relationship, and he doesn't seem to mind.

This has been nagging at me for some time, but how do guys feel about girls wearing the pants in a relationship? o.O

My first boyfriend liked it, especially when it came to anything romantic. He was pretty submissive.

But my close friend who recently visited me was so-so on it: as long as we were equal in the relationship we were both fine with it, or at least I was. Speaking for him, I know that he liked that I can be dominant if need be and only submissive when during a hard time in my life: he likes that it shows strength and willpower.

I'm sure it's different for everyone.

I tend to prefer women who are, while not necessarily dominant, strong. Not in the physical sense, but character-wise.

And I don't mind the lady taking the lead role.

Why on earth would it matter?

Seriously, either gender can be the leader in a relationship, if the very thought of a woman being more "dominant" than a man makes you nervous, you may want to stop dating. Now.


To be honest, I think this whole cultural bias in favour of men "leading" is annoying. I'm very passive, so if I ever do get a girlfriend I rather hope she's willing to have the majority of the initiative in the relationship.

This is all very interesting...continue on XD

As long as my gf doesn't try to control my life or get into the whole dominatrix thing I guess I'm fine with her wearing the proverbial "pants" in the relationship. It doesn't matter just as long as she loves me and all that stuff,

This is different then I was expecting. For some reason, I always saw guys as dominant *******s who treat girls like their territory. Idk. (:

Originally Posted by KelseyRain

This is different then I was expecting. For some reason, I always saw guys as dominant *******s who treat girls like their territory. Idk. (:

If not all girls are meek and submissive, why would all guys be dominant and overbearing?

Originally Posted by John

Why on earth would it matter?

Seriously, either gender can be the leader in a relationship, if the very thought of a woman being more "dominant" than a man makes you nervous, you may want to stop dating. Now.


To be honest, I think this whole cultural bias in favour of men "leading" is annoying. I'm very passive, so if I ever do get a girlfriend I rather hope she's willing to have the majority of the initiative in the relationship.

Yes, I agree with this.

In fact, the very notion of gender roles in general tends to make me rather uneasy.

Originally Posted by nolan

If not all girls are meek and submissive, why would all guys be dominant and overbearing?

I'm not sure...that's just how I pictured them. I think I read it or saw it somewhere, that "men want to be more dominant because it ups their self-esteem and manliness."

Notice I'm "quoting". (:

Being the apparently close-minded, traditionalist individual that I am, I would say that I am more comfortable with the man wearing the proverbial trousers, and seeing as I'm fairly dominant in all of my relationships... well, you get the idea.

* The poster hopes that the lot of you can gather that he was being mostly sarcastic.

depends of how being aggressive is a good thing.

quite frankly, I never understood why one has to "wear the pants" and make the dominant decisions. I've always thought there needs to be some sort of democracy so to speak in relationships.

i feel we can both fit in the pants if said pants are big enough for us both to get in

I prefer my relationships pantsless if you know what I mean

Which is to say, neither of us are dominant. Or maybe it'd be both of us. Either way, equal standing is the way to go. I wouldn't feel comfortable making decisions for both or just accepting whatever she says.

Originally Posted by John

Why on earth would it matter?

Seriously, either gender can be the leader in a relationship, if the very thought of a woman being more "dominant" than a man makes you nervous, you may want to stop dating. Now.


To be honest, I think this whole cultural bias in favour of men "leading" is annoying. I'm very passive, so if I ever do get a girlfriend I rather hope she's willing to have the majority of the initiative in the relationship.

Goddamn you're my hero.


I myself am a lot more submissive than I let on. I once drove a mile in the snow in the middle of the night while my girlfriend was asleep on my bed, because she wanted Strawberry soda. D:

I usually do wear the pants in a relationship. Theres nothing wrong with it especially when the man isnt very level headed. Someone needs to sort everything out!

I am a rather shy person and just kind of go with the flow... so yeah. That and if she is hot as hell I am totally down with being her submissive slave...

Though if she were to control my life and every aspect of it I would probably dump her.

But i have no problem with her wearing the pants in the relationship.

I don't care because I probably won't date a woman, blah hah.
lets just say i prefer to be the submissive one.....sometimes.....

Yes it doesn't matter blah blah blah.
My aunt totally dominates in the relationship with her boyfriend. She is always making the decisions and bossing him around. And he is punished often. She once kicked him out of her car for spilling a little soda. And they just bought a house together but only HER name is on it, even though they have split the cost down the middle. In this way I suppose she can kick him out at any time. Poor guy.
In a relationship, I tend to take more of a middle role. I certainly do not dominate (except maybe in the bedroom ;D) but I am not quiet and opinion less. I speak my mind and like making decisions. For me we should be as equal as possible.

Originally Posted by Florina Belmont

I usually do wear the pants in a relationship. Theres nothing wrong with it especially when the man isnt very level headed. Someone needs to sort everything out!

D= ................................

It should be noted that there's a difference between someone being "dominant" or the "leader" and being abusive.