A little over a year ago I met this lovely young lady on a Finnish community site. We started talking and texting and although we did not have that much in common, we were very much alike in other ways.
Then on 18th of August last year, we became a couple. Then after much texting and MSN:ing we met. It was the happiest day of my life. I've never felt such joy before. We started seeing each other on a somewhat regular basis and spent almost the entire Christmas holiday together. She cried in my arms just before I had to leave, the holiday was ending. We met many a weekend, but during weekdays she'd text about how she's horrible and not fit to be my girlfriend, saying we should break up, which I always brushed off, replying that she's the most wonderful girlfriend anyone could have.
Many weeks pass and along comes April. It was the first Sunday of April that we last met and that was also the day we got engaged. She had to start working as a trainee in some place as a part of her education. This, coupled with the fact that she was taking driving lessons and that she had around three horses to take care of, meant that we had little chance of seeing each other during this time.
Last week she texted about how she had cheated on me. I could not believe it, since she had texted me in a similar fashion before. I registered on another Finnish community site she was a member of to ask what was going on and saw a comment posted on her page by one of her friends; "So how's it going with the guy at work?". This happened yesterday and today she pretty much confessed, saying that I was not her type.
I asked her why she wanted to get engaged then, since she was always the first one to bring up such conversations. She replied "I just don't know."
So, I am not engaged anymore, she left me. I always promised her that I would never leave her and I have never made a promise I did not keep.
Wow, Tott. That's horrible. =(
I've just got one piece of advice: don't let this ruin your outlook on life. Sure, some people are horrible, bad stuff happens, but plenty of people are great and plenty of good things happen.
So don't get depressed on us, okay?
To give a few helpfulls: Face the fact that you have to move on, she clearly has, and put stuff that reminds you of her in a box or something similar, it will help to not think of her that often. Also distract yourself, go out with friends undertake fun stuff!
Nonetheless: It's still awful. Hope you feel better soon, though it will probably take a while.
Eh, Pani, I met my husband (hahaha, my husband XD) in October and we got engaged in June. When you know what you're going for and you're both certain it's exactly what you want, there's no reason to not get that done, at least. Legal marriage, obviously, is something you should give a bit of extra time... just in case, you know? ;3
Sorry to hear the sad details, Tott. Honestly, all I can say is that it's better that this happened sooner rather than later. It'll take a damn long time for you to get over it, more than likely, but at least you know that she had some serious issues to work through. I doubt there was much of anything you could have done to save the relationship - from the one side of this thing I got, it just seems like she's pretty young and immature and really doesn't know what she wants out of life. And unfortunately for both parties involved, a lot of good relationships end up falling apart because the two people are just at different points in their life like that.