This is it.

Originally Posted by andi

Eh, Pani, I met my husband (hahaha, my husband XD) in October and we got engaged in June. When you know what you're going for and you're both certain it's exactly what you want, there's no reason to not get that done, at least.

yep, but the key here is that both people have to know what they want

Originally Posted by andi

from the one side of this thing I got, it just seems like she's pretty young and immature and really doesn't know what she wants out of life. And unfortunately for both parties involved, a lot of good relationships end up falling apart because the two people are just at different points in their life like that.

My thoughts exactly. I know these things from first-hand experience. It sucks indeed.

Originally Posted by sea

Sucks, and it happens all the time. My advice? Stay the **** away from people.

A*

That is what I do

Putting together the things I've seen Margar and andi say, I have to admit that I can understand her decision a bit.

I was never angry at her, nor could I ever be. It just came so out of the blue, that I was very perplexed as to why this happened.

It's really overwhelming for you, having this come out of the blue. At the same time though, for her, this has been weeks or months in the making. I know what it's like to battle the equally crappy feelings of wanting to not hurt someone I care about, but also knowing that that person is not what I want for the long term. Meanwhile, this other guy is tempting her (and she gave in), which she knows was wrong of her... It's very confusing for a girl, and on top of insecurity issues that already exists, it's a crazy plurality to live in.

One main thing to remember is simply that this wasn't a crazy snap decision for her, rather a slow painful process of realization. She handled it in a bad way, but young people make those mistakes.

It is perplexing as to why she would be the one wanting the engagement, etc... My best guess is that she craved stability and also thought that maybe locking herself into a promise would help her push aside the feelings that were tugging her away from you. She probably thought that it was her own fault that she was having doubts. unfortunately, engagement was not the proper solution. She was probably hoping that by going through the motions of "what people are supposed to do (get married, make babies, live happily every after, etc...)" that she could somehow push her life down the path she thought it was supposed to go.

Horrible.


Some people are like that, be still, why would she do that.

Originally Posted by Wolf O'Donnell

Horrible.


Some people are like that, be still, why would she do that.

I wouldn't chalk it up to "some people are like that" because I have essentially been in the same experience as a girl myself, but I have come a long way in the maturity department. it's not that she's a sneaky lying *****, but rather a confused little girl that has to learn things the hard way. unfortunately our buddy Tott has suffered for it..

Sorry Tott.... *huggles*

Originally Posted by Pani

You met up in August, and got engaged in April? That is fast.

Nah, its not. When you know you know, why wait? My husband and I knew each other for a year, but we started dating in July and were engaged in October, then married in December.

Originally Posted by sugarpoultry

Nah, its not. When you know you know, why wait? My husband and I knew each other for a year, but we started dating in July and were engaged in October, then married in December.

Woah...that is fast.

Originally Posted by Yami

2 words.

Strip club.

And liquor. Lots of liquor.

Originally Posted by Marluxia

Woah...that is fast.

as they say... "that is so mo!"

HAHAHA!
Find a boy/girl, fall in love, get married, and make babies. if this process takes longer than 24 months, you are excommunicated!

(j/k!!!!)

No, I do believe the correct process is more along the lines of:

Fall in love, get engaged, run off on an indefinitely-long road trip, elope at a random courthouse spur of the moment along the way, settle down someplace when you've run out of funds/means to continue driving.

I still haven't figured out where kids fall into this picture, and that's a good thing.


edit: regardless, the point stands that some Finn here needs to take Tott out to a strip club and fill him full of booze. IT'S WHAT A REAL BRO WOULD DO.

Originally Posted by Captain Cornflake

No, I do believe the correct process is more along the lines of:

Fall in love, get engaged, run off on an indefinitely-long road trip, elope at a random courthouse spur of the moment along the way, settle down someplace when you've run out of funds/means to continue driving.

I still haven't figured out where kids fall into this picture, and that's a good thing.

that sounds more my style... XD

This is maybe not what you want to hear right now, but it's coming out anyway. Internet relationships can burn you just like any other relationship. People change, people lie and people hurt each other. You'll get over it.

Originally Posted by Captain Cornflake

edit: regardless, the point stands that some Finn here needs to take Tott out to a strip club and fill him full of booze. IT'S WHAT A REAL BRO WOULD DO.

Only if he pays for everything, I'm skint. I can't even remember the last time I got drunk, so it could be a refreshing thing to do.

TottEDIT: It started out as an Internet-relationship, but developed into a full-fledged relationship (a long-distance one at that) the moment we met.

Originally Posted by CurryMonster

This is maybe not what you want to hear right now, but it's coming out anyway. Internet relationships can burn you just like any other relationship. People change, people lie and people hurt each other. You'll get over it.

fyi- it wasn't just an internet relationship. it's how they initially met, but they did take it to real life eventually.

**** sucks dude.

Get smashed, then wreck her car up a bit.

I'm so sorry that this happened to you, Tott. It all seemed like it was perfect then it crashed, but you're strong and I know you'll be able to get through it. Many things happen with a reason behind them, this one being that she was not the right girl for you. There are plenty more out in the sea, so do not let one girl seem to ruin everything.

You have plenty of friends who are willing to help you through this and anything. Try and see towards the brighter side of life and let everything else go **** itself :3

Originally Posted by Margar

fyi- it wasn't just an internet relationship. it's how they initially met, but they did take it to real life eventually

I know. Quite uncharacteristically, I actually took the time to read the opening post. But the message of my post remains the same.

Originally Posted by CurryMonster

People change, people lie and people hurt each other. You'll get over it.

Originally Posted by PyroShadow

**** sucks dude.

Get smashed, then wreck her car up a bit.

She got me sittin' at a bar on the inside
Waitin' for my ride on the outside
She stole my heart in the trailer park
So I jacked the keys to her ****in' car
Crashed that piece of **** and then stepped away

Originally Posted by Captain Cornflake

She got me sittin' at a bar on the inside
Waitin' for my ride on the outside
She stole my heart in the trailer park
So I jacked the keys to her ****in' car
Crashed that piece of **** and then stepped away

Rehab ftw!