ZU Men's Advice thread

Yeah, go ahead and ask her tomorrow, but don't seek her out, just wait until you see her.

Originally Posted by Bradapalooza

Yeah, go ahead and ask her tomorrow, but don't seek her out, just wait until you see her.

Of course. Thanks again man.

Getting a girlfriend isn't something you should try to do, right? Isn't it best on all parties if you just happen to meet someone who likes you? I know a lot of girls right now and I'd really not mind having one, but I really don't know how I'd go about advancing a friendship. I think it's because I shouldn't, if any of them like me and I return the favor, it's best to start there, but wait to see when we know eachother better.

My huge problem is that my girlfriends always find me. If I ever want a girlfriend, I can't get one. I just have to wait and hope someone else finds me.

To be honest, that's better than not having a girlfriend ever. :/

My school formal/prom (you get the idea) is on the 29th of June, but we need to buy the tickets for it this week. Should I ask some one if they want to go with me this week, or should I wait until closer to the time?

Originally Posted by Arcanine

My school formal/prom (you get the idea) is on the 29th of June, but we need to buy the tickets for it this week. Should I ask some one if they want to go with me this week, or should I wait until closer to the time?

Get it done as early as possible.

What Jodd said. If you put it off, she'll find someone else to go with.

Fair enough. BUT, there's only two girls I'm actually interested in, and one of them has already rejected me before, so don't wanna try that again, and the other is my best friend, and already seeing another one of my good friends, so don't want to try that either. I honestly dunno what to do....

Ask them both casually. Mention the prom, and ask if they're going with anyone. If they're not, ask them to go with you.

Originally Posted by Bradapalooza

Yeah, go ahead and ask her tomorrow, but don't seek her out, just wait until you see her.

Unfortunately, it didn't exactly work out as planned. She has work pretty much the whole weekend (even Fridays) and during the week is a pretty hard thing to do. My friend was saying that it might be better to get to know her better (she might be more willing to make time for us to hang out), but it's kinda hard for me to do, seeing as I don't see her often. Maybe I could talk to her through Facebook?

Dear Manliest Male Juggenauts of ZU.

Yes this is a girl issue. I met this girl towards the end of my Junior year in High School and we have been friends for about a year and a half now. I find her to be really special, and I see a light in her that I don't see in any other girl, I want to get to know her better and open up to her more, as I'd like her to do for me. However, we really don't hang out that often. As good of friends as we are, we only hang about once a month average, but it's always worth the month because we usually have a lot of fun. She makes me feel important, something other girls don't really do, and I really favor her and appreciate her for it because I know that she's right.

I guess what I'm trying to ask is: How do I get closer and more personal to her without seeming like a creeper or sleazy? I want to tell her how I feel but I'm not sure how she'd take it: Will she be relieved? Freaked out? It's a bit of an issue since she's a grade below me, I'm at college and she's still at my home town, but I'm still willing to make it work somehow.

Originally Posted by Blurrhead

I guess what I'm trying to ask is: How do I get closer and more personal to her without seeming like a creeper or sleazy? I want to tell her how I feel but I'm not sure how she'd take it: Will she be relieved? Freaked out? It's a bit of an issue since she's a grade below me, I'm at college and she's still at my home town, but I'm still willing to make it work somehow.

Give her some chocolate! Girls like chocolate....then talk to her how you feel....or if she is on a diet give the chocolate to me. Thank you very much!

Originally Posted by Blurrhead

Dear Manliest Male Juggenauts of ZU.

Yes this is a girl issue. I met this girl towards the end of my Junior year in High School and we have been friends for about a year and a half now. I find her to be really special, and I see a light in her that I don't see in any other girl, I want to get to know her better and open up to her more, as I'd like her to do for me. However, we really don't hang out that often. As good of friends as we are, we only hang about once a month average, but it's always worth the month because we usually have a lot of fun. She makes me feel important, something other girls don't really do, and I really favor her and appreciate her for it because I know that she's right.

I guess what I'm trying to ask is: How do I get closer and more personal to her without seeming like a creeper or sleazy? I want to tell her how I feel but I'm not sure how she'd take it: Will she be relieved? Freaked out? It's a bit of an issue since she's a grade below me, I'm at college and she's still at my home town, but I'm still willing to make it work somehow.

Tell her tits or GTFO. It works like a charm for me.

Originally Posted by p0wnn00b

Unfortunately, it didn't exactly work out as planned. She has work pretty much the whole weekend (even Fridays) and during the week is a pretty hard thing to do. My friend was saying that it might be better to get to know her better (she might be more willing to make time for us to hang out), but it's kinda hard for me to do, seeing as I don't see her often. Maybe I could talk to her through Facebook?

Phone #'s are greater than facebook. Just talk to her whenever you get the chance. Small talk or anything. Complain about how silly school is or something of the sort. Just being friendly really progresses a relationship from acquaintances to close friends/bf/gf more that chatting on facebook. You can certainly friend her on facebook or w/e and have convos w/ her everynow and then but ask for her number. (Easiest way in my experience to do so is too be txting or w/e whenever you go up and just be like "Hey what's your number? since you already have your phone out makes it seem quite a bit more spontaneous) Everybody takes time off sometimes and most people don't work a full 8-10 hour day at her age so if you just hang out more or anything you guys could go catch a movie after her job or something.

Originally Posted by Ozzie

Tell her tits or GTFO. It works like a charm for me.

Way to be useless Ozzie. Lmao.

Originally Posted by Blurrhead

Dear Manliest Male Juggenauts of ZU.

Yes this is a girl issue. I met this girl towards the end of my Junior year in High School and we have been friends for about a year and a half now. I find her to be really special, and I see a light in her that I don't see in any other girl, I want to get to know her better and open up to her more, as I'd like her to do for me. However, we really don't hang out that often. As good of friends as we are, we only hang about once a month average, but it's always worth the month because we usually have a lot of fun. She makes me feel important, something other girls don't really do, and I really favor her and appreciate her for it because I know that she's right.

I guess what I'm trying to ask is: How do I get closer and more personal to her without seeming like a creeper or sleazy? I want to tell her how I feel but I'm not sure how she'd take it: Will she be relieved? Freaked out? It's a bit of an issue since she's a grade below me, I'm at college and she's still at my home town, but I'm still willing to make it work somehow.

Well, I've never been a big proponent of college-highschool relationships but the best way to go about this is really just to ask her out. You don't really have the excuse to just start chilling with her more often since you guys aren't in the same grade and she will probably say yes anyways since your in college (chicks dig that ****).


Edit:
Sry for the double post

[QUOTE=Bradapalooza;3127202]Phone #'s are greater than facebook. Just talk to her whenever you get the chance. Small talk or anything. Complain about how silly school is or something of the sort. Just being friendly really progresses a relationship from acquaintances to close friends/bf/gf more that chatting on facebook. You can certainly friend her on facebook or w/e and have convos w/ her everynow and then but ask for her number. (Easiest way in my experience to do so is too be txting or w/e whenever you go up and just be like "Hey what's your number? since you already have your phone out makes it seem quite a bit more spontaneous) Everybody takes time off sometimes and most people don't work a full 8-10 hour day at her age so if you just hang out more or anything you guys could go catch a movie after her job or something.

I just feel that asking her for her number this early might be a bit weird. I should get to know her a bit better maybe.

Originally Posted by p0wnn00b

I just feel that asking her for her number this early might be a bit weird. I should get to know her a bit better maybe.

Don't worry about it, just ask for her number. I asked a girl for her number the first time I talked to her. If she's interested at all, she'll give you it.

Originally Posted by p0wnn00b

Phone #'s are greater than facebook. Just talk to her whenever you get the chance. Small talk or anything. Complain about how silly school is or something of the sort. Just being friendly really progresses a relationship from acquaintances to close friends/bf/gf more that chatting on facebook. You can certainly friend her on facebook or w/e and have convos w/ her everynow and then but ask for her number. (Easiest way in my experience to do so is too be txting or w/e whenever you go up and just be like "Hey what's your number? since you already have your phone out makes it seem quite a bit more spontaneous) Everybody takes time off sometimes and most people don't work a full 8-10 hour day at her age so if you just hang out more or anything you guys could go catch a movie after her job or something.

I just feel that asking her for her number this early might be a bit weird. I should get to know her a bit better maybe.

Ehh, it's really not that odd. As long as you don't walk and make it completely obvious your only intent is to get her number then it might be odd. If you do something like you just thought it would be convenient then its only natural

Originally Posted by Bradapalooza

Ehh, it's really not that odd. As long as you don't walk and make it completely obvious your only intent is to get her number then it might be odd. If you do something like you just thought it would be convenient then its only natural

I guess I'll work it into the conversation. I just have to prevent it from being randomly placed into the conversation.

There's this really attractive single lady I am interested in, but every single time I want to get some time to talk to her, one of her male friends shows up and is basically a cock block. How do I deal with this?