Weird Exes

There's this guy I dated for a couple of years. He was a complete jerk, though, and I dumped him earlier this year.

It didn't end very well. It wasn't formal, we didn't make promises to stay friends, and I'm pretty sure most of it involved me screaming at him. But yeah.

A few months after we broke up, we started talking again. He said he wanted to be friends, but then he started telling me that I wasn't going to be able to put up with my current boyfriend (whom I love very much, more than anything in the entire world) being gone all the time, since he joined the Navy.

I never wanted to be friends with the guy in the first place, since I hate him (I tell him that I do, but he doesn't seem to get it). But I figured I could at least try to be nice.

Eventually, my boyfriend confronted that he didn't like me talking to my ex, since it seemed like he was trying to get us to break up. So I told my ex that I didn't ever want to talk to him again. This was in June. I still hate him, and I still don't want to speak to him.

But in the past three months, he's still trying to become friends with me again, he's still filling a certain inbox of mine up with messages I don't want, and he no matter how many times I yell at him (or just kindly tell him to leave me alone) he promises he will, only to bother me once more. And I'm sick of it.

He is also convinced, for some reason, that my boyfriend is simply controling me, and that deep down I want to still be really good friends. I do not. I was very happy when my boyfriend told me to stay away from him.

My boyfriend has talked to the guy, too.

However, I think that my ex knows that my boyfriend is away at Basic Training at the moment, since he sent me another message today, trying to be all casual, asking how I'm doing. I believe he messaged me today because he thinks I'll respond since my boyfriend isn't around to stop me. Wrong.

He likes to pretend that he's always the good guy, but he really messed me up, and I really do hate him. All I want is to him to get - and stay - out of my life. Any ideas on how to make this work?

Also, what are your own experiences with exes that refused to leave you alone? How did you go about getting rid of them?

Originally Posted by Evaline

Also, what are your own experiences with exes that refused to leave you alone? How did you go about getting rid of them?

Cody and Rew are gonna think I'm a real evil lady for this... but...





1) cold shoulder treatment
2) silent treatment
3) statement of the facts (e.g., "we're not getting back together, leave me the hell alone")

I have a really recent story, although it wasn't my ex, but my girlfriend's ex. I've told it lots of times here but I guess I can summarise it all again.

Basically my girlfriend had a boyfriend in Korea when we first started seeing each other. It sounds awful, I know, and at first I genuinely felt sorry for the guy. They had been friends and he had kept asking her out constantly, despite her turning him down every time. 4 days before she came to Australia she finally caved in and said yes, thinking that she may be able to come to like him eventually.

Then we met and I found out she had a guy in Korea, but she told me she didn't like him as any more than a friend and was planning to break up with him. 2 weeks later he was on a plane to Australia to see her and stay here for 2 months. All kinds of awkward. He was living in her apartment for the duration of his stay here, but she still hadn't properly broken it off with him. I believe she had tried to break it off several times, but in his mind both of them had to agree for it to officially be over.

One night he saw me and her together and followed us for about 2 hours without saying anything. Then when she got home he got really angry at her and they officially broke up for good.

That said, I reckon he still couldn't get over her. He stayed living in her apartment and would still call her constantly to check up on her, and get angry whenever he saw us together or found out we had been seeing each other.

One night he came home drunk and broke her mobile phone so she couldn't contact me anymore.

It escalated more when he came home drunk another night and started fighting with her, which led to physical abuse and him dragging all her clothes and stuff out and throwing it at her, telling her to pack up and leave. She called me at about 1:30am in the morning, crying, and asking if she could come to my place to stay. She came without any of her stuff and stayed with me for 2 weeks. He had taken her mobile phone and packed all of her clothes and stuff into her suticase and kept it in his room.

About a week or two later we were in the city having coffee when we saw him on the street, taking photos of us with her camera. She went back to her apartment while he was gone to get her laptop and camera back but her other sharemate told her she should take everything because he said he was going to throw it all away.

That night she called him to ask about the key for her suitcase, and the camera because he still had it. He said he would give everything back if she came back to live in the apartment for the last 3 days he was in Australia. She did so and then everything was relatively okay.

He contacted her once after he went back to Korea but we haven't heard from him since, which is good. This is the abridged version, by the way. Basically he was a selfish, possessive, psychotic freak. And although I felt sorry for him at first, he went way too far. He said to her he wanted her to feel everything he did, but worse, and that he wanted her to feel scared to return to Korea next year (By threatening to spread rumours about her to her family and friends back home).

Good lord, Eijiro. That's completely insane. I'm glad everyone is alright.

And... I don't have any crazy exes

One of my exes phoned me every New Years' Eve for a few years for reasons I still can't fathom. That's about as weird as it got in my case unfortunately.

My ex kept commenting on my art even when I clearly told him to piss off until the end of this year.

I don't know if he is obsessed with me or if he wants my mind meddled with him..

Seriously, I have had enough with love for ages.

My first girlfriend sent me offensive emails for a couple of weeks after she dumped me because I got over her too fast.

I could go on for days, but for now, I'll give you the quick jist.

All of my exes are best friends now. *hates life*
My first girlfriend left me for some football player cause I wouldn't put out.
My second girlfriend dated me for three years, then cheated on me with a girl.
My third girlfriend left me for some kid at a ska show.
My fourth girlfriend dated me for almost four years and then got mad at me and tried to hit me with her car.
My fifth girlfriend left me for some kid who made her a cd. Thats the reason she left me for him, cause he was nice enough to make her a cd.

There are much more worse cases, but that's just the overall coverage.

Originally Posted by Aeffles

My second girlfriend dated me for three years, then cheated on me with a girl.

Aeffles, I know you are my friend, but I need to say this:

Yes.

Power Shot has only had one girlfriend before, but several stalkers. He now has to carry Mace with him for fear of more. Why, one of them even tried to kill him in a pool. Fortunately, he outweighed the girl and made her and the friend she brought to help go away.

My weird ex...

Stalked me online even though she kept telling herself and everybody that she was so over me, and all that silly denial nonsense.

The second crazy one isn't my ex, but I developed feelings for her. Unfortunately for me she was a dominating psychotic little lying leg-spreading slut with abandonment issues. Also judging from by what she told me about her life, I most surely am making justified insults!

It's funny how some women will complain about feeling inferior to men, but will jump to dominate a man when the chance is given. Is that fair?

As for me, after the last psychotic ***** my former burning desire for love has been severely put down. I regret nothing though, the pain has taught me much. Very much.

Originally Posted by William Zelda4ever

The second crazy one isn't my ex, but I developed feelings for her. Unfortunately for me she was a dominating psychotic little lying leg-spreading slut with abandonment issues. Also judging from by what she told me about her life, I most surely am making justified insults!

Psychotic in what way?

She very much seemed to be making me suffer intentionally. Also, one time she made a hysterical attempt in her unjustified anger to teach me ridiculous things about how one should think and act. Didn't exactly give off a mentally healthy impression of herself. Not to me, atleast.

Sounds perfect.

Originally Posted by Lelouch

Sounds perfect.

Yes...perfectly insane. If that's what you like though, go for it. =P

That IS what I like, I just don't get enough of it