Theres this girl

Theres this girl at school and she likes me and she always wants me to go to a dance but i'm only 13 and I don't want a girlfriend yet and my dad would bug me forever if he found out. And I like her and she actully looks realy good and you know. She not gonna have no boy friends forever. .
By the way theres a dance in a couple of days and I'm getting mixed feelings about asking my parents if I can go or just to say to her that I cant go to to the dance with her. I need help

Ah, love. The very essence of human life...

*Ahem*

Well, it's going to be hard, but if you are 13 years old and if you feel that you are not ready yet, just tell her! Say it in a way that you won't hurt her feelings and even if you do, you won't hurt her too bad.

The problem with telling another person that loves you or that you likes him or her is that you can never say "no". Why? It's because you are afraid to tell her, you are afraid that if you tell her, she won't like you anymore.

Here's the thing. No one can really help you on this, most likely you'll have to solve it yourself. But if you are too young, well...

My advice is: tell her that you are still too young and you don't feel quite ready yet. You both can still be good friends and who knows? Maybe in the future, you and her can be together in a pair.

Good luck. ^__^

Yeah your right. I should go tell her what I feel. and your right that we could still be friends and once again your right that I am scared to say no. Thanks I needed some good advice like that.

do you want to go with her? yes/no.






If Yes... just ask your parents, I suggest your dad personally.


If No... then tell her you aren't ready to date yet, and maybe you should hang out alittle more first.

simple as that I believe.

Ask her out. Seize the oppurtunity, you may never get it again. You're dad can't bug you forever......

if your'e not ready yet, then it's best to wait. tell her your'e not ready yet, she should understand.

Like I said before, the decision is totally up to you. If you feel bad about this whole ordeal, you better stop before you fall into a state in which everything will fall apart. So be careful, especially when you are still so young. You haven't fully experienced life as a teenager yet. ^___^

yea you're just beginning, btw dude, if you go out with her, and your a good guy, ALLLLLLLLL of her friends will know, and they'll talk about it the rest of your school life, as in for example...
She likes you, later on in life you break up on good terms
her friends suddenly like you (why? you were a nice boy friend and are now single!)
then the pattern continues
I never got the chance to start the pattern
and when I did, I turned her down... (I liked osmeone else, but w/e)
I still have yet to get the chance, its starten to work for me, but im almost 17 now dude... my suggestion is to go for it... if you dont like her alot, dont get too attached. I dno, dont spend all your money either... never a good idea, well maybe for her bein as your first...

Thanks all you guys but I think it would help a bit to get advise from a girl because they might know a bit more about how girls think. unless if one of you guys has a girl friend that tells you all about what girls think.

Hmm... I COULD ask one of my female friends about your problem...

Thanks that would be a bit of help.

i was told never as a girl because all girls are different
guys look at it as in one in the same, so the advise is better, thats what I was told
last time I took girl advise I got rejected...

Here's the answers from one of my female friends that I know in real life.

"well...invite him out...with other friends too...like in a group....and wait until he is ready."

"...i think she will wait, right?"

"maybe she will ask him out....if he doesnt feel comfortable being alone with her...ask her if they can go out in a group...."

and finally

"like go out with their friends and stuff....they have common friends ma?"

These are her replies online. Lol. Good luck and have fun. And yes, don't follow the advices unless you are positively sure that's what you want.

yeah your right about the advise about girls but my dad said that he had a friend that didn't want a girl friend until he was in 12th grade and when 12th grade came the girls where throwing themselfs at him. but I don't think that that one girl that realy likes and me will stay single for long because she looks realy good. and as I said before I realy like her too.

See theres only one problem about having all my friends go with me. I live way out in the boonys and I can't get anywhere without my parents having to take me. I mean I would do it but i can't because you know I live in the middle of know where.

You know what I think? You have a low self-esteem, like me. LOL. If she really likes you, she'll wait until you are ready. If she didn't wait, then that means she's probably not the type that you want.

Yeah, courting a girl and having a girlfriend and confusions about love are pretty stressful. Listen to some music and think about what we've said.

OK. I'm a girl, I just turned 14, and I have been in this kind of ordeal before ... exept from the girl's point of view!

If you like her, but aren't ready to go out with anyone yet, just tell her calmly one-on-one. It may be nerve wreaking but tell her in person. Don't tell one of her friends or your friends to tell her!

If she really likes you, she'll understand. If she loves you, she'll wait for you untill you're ready. That's what I'd do.

Yeah your right about listening to music and thinking about what you said.

and Midoriko your right but last time I tried that she didn't look at me for like 3 weeks and I had to work my way back up to this. I went from not having her looking at me to a delema in just a couple weeks. and this time I don't want to get her mad at me for good.

and those of you who are going to say just ask her to be my girl friend well you don't know what my family would think.

I'll ask my parents for help I bet to some of you that may seem like a bad idea but i've made my decision and I'm going to ask them for help they'll have the right advise

Good job! Now you've made a decision about it, you'll feel much better. ^__^