Something thats been on my mind

Recently, a friend of mine decided she was a bisexual.

Whatever, if you love someone you love someone, right? I have no problems with gays/bisexuals, but something has started to get on my nerves, the way people act about themselves.

My friend, who recently came out of the closet now acts like the queen of all lesbians. Whenever someone says "gay" as a term of frustration, she will go off on some ridiculous rant about something that affects only her. There are plenty of people who will do this, completely turn their sexuality into an excuse to attention whore.

I'm not saying all gay/lesbian/bisexuals are all like that, not at all. But the ones who are are just so annoying. They think because their different from the majority of the populous that they should be treated like a god.

I guess this was a bit of a rant from me too :x

Do any of you know anyone like this? If so, what are your experiences with them.

I don't know anyone like that, but maybe at least some of those people really are still straight. If someone "comes out", and thinks everyone on Earth should know about it, is probably just pretending to get attention.

It's one thing to have an epiphany and have openmindeness about something. It's another to think people should treat you special just because you may have what boils down to a hormonal imbalance in your system.

If you feel that you genuinely feel that you're homosexual, that's fine. Tell your immediate family, close friends, and anyone of the opposite gender that asks you out. Don't climb to a mountaintop with a blowhorn, and scream it to the heavens.

This goes for all attention whores out there.

No I know what your talking about. And I agree with you. Just becasue your gay/bi or whatever does not mean that I am going to treat you any different then the next guy/girl so don't expect it. I had to deal with this situation in fact about a week ago. There was this gay guy at a party that I was at and he acted really obnoxious just because he was gay. You could tell just by the way he would say things to people. So eventually we all got pissed at him and told him to basically STFU, and quit acting like that just becasue he was gay. I think he got the hint becasue he was a different person the rest of the night.

Every single gay or bisexual person I know (in real life), male or female, has actually never come out to me. I know them long enough, or well enough, and it just becomes apparent. I'm sure that perhaps had I not picked up on it, and said something that made them uncomfortable, they would have, but they wouldn't have made a big deal about it.

I have heard of some gay people that tend to make a big deal about being gay, but from what I was told, it was more enforcing that they were not ashamed of their sexuality, that they weren't scared to live an out lifestyle, and didn't care what anyone else thought. It wasn't about getting attention. When you're part of a stigmatized and often negatively targeted group, I can understand why you could be defensive about it...even if it can be annoying at times.

The thing about people like that, though, is that they're not limited to bisexuality or homosexuality. Everyone does it. Heterosexuals do it. White people do it. Black people do it. Handicapped people do it. Certain people think and always will think that being socially oppressed in even the slightest way gives you the right to be a total *****.

Aex, I think I agree with you there. This way of acting isn't just confined to gay/lesbian/whatever. Heck, I don't even know if it is confined to minorities. People will find any reasons to rant about themselves, myself included! ^_~

I am flamboyantly heterosexual.

Your friend is a teenager, and also a girl. Teenager girls are silly. I highly doubt she actually is a bisexual; it's very likely just some ploy to seem "open-minded" or to get attention by endlessly *****ing and complaining about her non-existent "marginalisation".

Originally Posted by sea

it's very likely just some ploy to seem "open-minded" or to get attention by endlessly *****ing and complaining about her non-existent "marginalisation".

Maybe. But just because it's plausible doesn't mean that it's likely. Did you know some girls that did that? (And I don't mean Hollywood types, they don't count.)

:XD

People will always crave attention. "Comming out of the closet," is one way to get attention. There are many people who are genuenly homosexuals and bisexuals. Some, however just use it to grab attetion. It's no diffrent than buying a Hummer. It just says, "look at me!"

I have some good friends that are bisexual/gay, and they do not act like that at all really. The girls especially not. The boys are just ok with what they are. They do not brag about it, but they talk about it sometimes (like who they like) and stuff.

I have seen this same bahavior though with this one guy at my school. He is black, or rather half black (I have nothing against black people at all) and his comeback for everything is "you hate me because I am black" or "not because i'm black" or somthing to that extent. It annoys me. I couldn't care less what color he is, and most people couldn't care less either.

Ahh, yeah, I've heard that alot too. Well, I don't think true gays really are like that: I mean, I know homosexuals that are very comfortable with using the term "gay" in their daily lives. I tell you, the people where I used to live were completly homophobic, you'd be scared to death to come out of the closet there.

Meh, A lot of people at my middle school did this. They became bisexual just to get attention, which was annoying. Although they didn't get much attention..they were just frowned upon.

Yeah something a little diffrent happend to me when I found out a friend of mine is a "lesbian", so yeah I know this friend of mine, I don't really know her much but yeah anyway I was talking to her on msn awhile ago and she had picture of well two female kissing and I was oh my god, how come you have that picture and she said yeah thats me and my Girlfriend and I was like "......" and I was like my god your a bi'? and she's like yeah didn't you know, And yeah thats basicly it I can't belive it for some reason since I found that out I dont like talking for her it's horrible I want to talk to her but It seems awkward in some way, I dont really like biosexual's but I dont talk about it much other why's people are "WTF LAWL BEIN' GAY IS TEH BOMB1!1!!11!1" These days everyone is Biosexual but it doesn't annoy me anymore. =/

To be honest, I don't care what people do unless it's harming someone/thing. I don't think it's my place to care what they do in their spare time, what kind of car they drive, what music they listen to or their sexuality.

I'm tall. I mean, if I am around people, they're probably going to mention in conversation or ask the infamous 'Why are you so tall' question -- which I get asked about eight times a day.

And it... really annoys me. Do they want to give me them the list, or tell them I eat weetabix, or lecture on gene mutations? And I can answer them, but the conversation's in a rut by now, the topic having being exhausted, and they ask some other... random question. It's a recipe for disaster. And I don't particularly want to sit and explain this to every person who asks me the question.

So say this kid,of about eight years old and I were next to each other in a queue, and he asks the question. And I completely snap and verbally rip his head off. He'll go home feeling completely hard done by, and see me as a grumpy/attention seeking idiot.

But I'm not, am I?

Whatever people say in conversations is influenced by a million past encounters. If I've learned not to mention animal rights to this person, because she's really uppity about it, then I won't do so. If I've get a thousand questions and twice as many verbal beatings from homophobic people about my sexuality, then I may well come out with something that would seem out of proportion to any listener.

You see what I'm getting at?

Originally Posted by Dakota

To be honest, I don't care what people do unless it's harming someone/thing. I don't think it's my place to care what they do in their spare time, what kind of car they drive, what music they listen to or their sexuality.

I'm tall. I mean, if I am around people, they're probably going to mention in conversation or ask the infamous 'Why are you so tall' question -- which I get asked about eight times a day.

And it... really annoys me. Do they want to give me them the list, or tell them I eat weetabix, or lecture on gene mutations? And I can answer them, but the conversation's in a rut by now, the topic having being exhausted, and they ask some other... random question. It's a recipe for disaster. And I don't particularly want to sit and explain this to every person who asks me the question.

So say this kid,of about eight years old and I were next to each other in a queue, and he asks the question. And I completely snap and verbally rip his head off. He'll go home feeling completely hard done by, and see me as a grumpy/attention seeking idiot.

But I'm not, am I?

Whatever people say in conversations is influenced by a million past encounters. If I've learned not to mention animal rights to this person, because she's really uppity about it, then I won't do so. If I've get a thousand questions and twice as many verbal beatings from homophobic people about my sexuality, then I may well come out with something that would seem out of proportion to any listener.

You see what I'm getting at?

That's a good point. Maybe some do it because of aggravation buildup.

I am happily bisexual and have no problem with people using "gay" as in terms of frustration, and neither is my bro, whom is gay.

Honesty, people are like that. They are either over sensitive or are big fat attention whores.

I have a close friend who came out to me sometime this year, and she was nothing like that. She took it remarkably well. She didn't even freak out when her father took it badly. In my own (admittedly limited) experience, a lot of people aren't oversensitive.