Girl Troubles

Hey everyone, I'm caught in the middle of a dilemma here. I'll start from the beginning and work my way up to the problem. Here goes: Back when I used to live in Michigan, I knew this girl named Faith. My best friends and I would hang out with her and stuff, and she was really cool. Some of them even dated her for a little while. Well, as time went by, I began to like her more and more. Then God thought it would be funny if he made my family move right at the time when I was finally making tons of friends and developing myself, and especially since I was really beginning to like a girl. So thats exactly what He did. We moved here to Indiana, a good 5 hours away from where I lived in Michigan. I visit there as much as possible to see my friends, and to see her. Each time I go there, I try to get with her, but each time something doesnt go right. I just recently went there again, and unsucesssfully tried to get with her at a party. I was really depressed the next day and pretty down the entire week. Now my question is, should I just get it all over with and tell her I like her so that maybe I might have a better chance of getting with her the next time I see her? Or should l not say anything? I just don't want to jeopardize the friendship and any small chance of hope there might still be. Any and all of your comments would be greatly appreciated. Thanks everyone. Sorry this was so long. LOL.

I say tell her that you like her.

6 days ago, I told a girl I liked her, and it turned out that she liked me, too, and had liked me for, I dunno, a month before then? XD Maybe she'll respond to this thread. But yeah, we're going out now, although we haven't technically gone anywhere...

Yeah, definitely tell her.

Let me tell you a quick story:

There was this girl who really liked a friend of mine (I just heard this story Friday, btw). Well, for a LONG time, my friend had one particular girlfriend, and this other girl would pretend that she was buddy-buddy with his girlfriend and all...just to seem personable. So, this girl bided her time until my friend and his girlfriend broke up. Well, she wanted to wait until he got into his "rebound" state. She waited too long...my friend DID rebound and started dating another young lady. So, the girl didn't ever get to date my friend, and it wasn't until much later that she told him how she had felt all that time.

So...what's the moral? Just tell her. If you have these feelings, you will be hurting the relationship more by keeping them (unless you can diffuse them) and not getting them out in the open.

ZU's #1 Stud-muffin here and ready to go ^_^

Meh, I really don't know thoug. I think you should tell her though, heck for all we know she may like you as you do with her. Ya never know Milhouse. So i say tell her, I'm sure everything would go alright........

WARNING
I may be a lil stud-muffin but I've never had a girlfriend in my life. I will not be responsible if all heck breaks loose in your life because of this advice. It is merely a notion you do not need to take seriously........

As a general rule, honesty is a chief moral priority. At least present yourself in such a fashion that, if she disagrees, she can respect you as a friend. Openess is, usually, a furthering of honesty. Think of it this way, in this point in your friendship, do you owe her the courtesy of being as open as you can be about your feelings?

Anyone notice a tendency to have one person chasing you, while you are chasing someone else? A relationship is surely a meeting of two minds.

Let me give you a moral I just learned today. It has to do with a Judo competition, so it is only indirectly related to this situation. I was playing and I won my first two rounds, and lost my third and fourth rounds. Naturally inquisitive, I have probed myself for the reason of my demise. Unsound fundamentals? Always, but not the driving reason. Really and truly, in those final two matches, I didn't take the initiative. I was so worried about defending myslef against every attack, that I bottled myself up against the chance at a real offense. I, in effect, became so concerned with preventing a match ending throw, that I never made a match ending throw. Throughout life we see parallels. We constantly erect barriers behind which we hide, behind which we shield ourselves from rejection and defeat (and hurt!). You cannot achieve progress and results without taking credible risk. Just in the same way that I stifled myself by stiffening up and playing not to lose, you can do so in real life. "The only thing a prevent defense does is prevent you from winning!" (theres a football quote) In conclusion, play to win, and not to "not lose".

Tell her! You will never know does she care for you, if you dont talk to her.

I don't think you should.. I think it's too far away from each other. Also you don't know if she likes you in that way or wants a long range relationship.. I say no, start living your new life in Indiana and stop living too much in the past ..

GanonsD

Ganon's Daughter does bring up an interesting point. Even if she does like you back, it would be hard to keep up a long-distance relationship like that. In the end, it all comes down to how much you like this girl. In my opinion, though, you should tell her. I mean, even if there is a chance it won't work out, it's better to just go for it and hope things work out than to forget about it and always wonder how things could have ended up.

In closing, Milhouse, you've got everything to gain and nothing to lose. Go for it.

GannonsD is wise, young grasshopper. She has forgotten more about love/sex/dating then you will ever know.

So, yeah.

I really think you should tell her. I may not have ever had a great relationship I know that if you try and try again (only twice) she may have thought about it and she may want to go out with you. I may be only 12 but it worked for me. ^_^

If by "get with her" you mean you want to engage in sexual intercoarse with her, go for it. Long distance relationships, as already mentioned, are pointless.

Originally posted by Kedisar
Oh god, I really shouldn't comment on this because, I swear the elapsed time I've spent in my life (I'm 16) talking to females between the ages 14 and 18, has been no more than 9-10 hours. I am NOT kidding. (And I'm talking about voice-to-voice, not the internet.)

Lucky bastard I've probably only spent about 2 hours. And I have 4 girls my age living on my road, one right next to my house...

dude...the exact...exact same thing happened to me!

I was begining to become more social and socially accepted. I found that this girl was the one for me. I never had the courage to ever ask her out for I knew that summer I would be moving to NC. I know she would have likely said yes, and that would have been my first girlfriend! I ne7ver asked her out. I thought that it would be wrong for me to do this. She deserved someone there. Someone close. I then moved down south. For the first year my life was agony after agony. I never stopped regretting ever expressing my love...or more likely "6th Grade Crush" but love in my young and foolish eyes.

Still the moral of the story is "Tis better to love and lost than never loved at all." -William Shakespear.

Methinks he knew a thing or two about such things.


Acius...I am soooo happy for you two!

well, i would tell her... i did that with the last girl i liked, and she was cool with it... unfortunately, someone told her something about me which was not true at all... among other things (he liked her too) and now she won't consider me, so i gave up on her... but until *instert name here* interfered, it was ok

Dude tell her! If you do then she might like you back. And who cares if it is a long-distance relationship? Things will always work out in the end.

Thanks everyone for your thoughts and comments. It really helped me a lot, especially since some of you have been in the same boat as me. I think I'm going to go ahead and tell her how I feel. Now that I think about it, my sister and this other guy in Michigan from when we lived there both really like each other and always talk on the phone and online. If they lived near each other, they would probably go out. And whenever she visits him in Michigan, they always do stuff together (no, not just dirty stuff). Thats all I really want with this girl. Kinda have a relationship whenever we see each other. A secret love per say. That would be better than nothing. So anyways, I'm going to Michigan in 2 weeks, so when I go, I'm going to tell her then. Thanks again, everyone. I know I can always count on you all.

Personally i would tell her that, so that you dont have to hold that back. Its really bad holding back feelings, even though the distance could be a problem, id say go for it.