Love thread.

Originally Posted by PrincessTetra7

Don't tell that to me, tell that to Meg Cabot, who said that was what love was in every single book she has written. No offence, but she has been married for 11 years. . .

It would seem like she'd know something about love, but a lot of people stay in marriages even when they aren't really in love anymore. For all we know, Meg Cabot could be having marriages troubles, and her descriptions of love are a fantasy of hers. You, like she's in love with that image of love.

Did that make sense?

I tend to base true love on my oldest sister's marriage, rather than a book. She and her husband are so happy to be together, even though they've gone through hard times. They tell eachother fart jokes, they love to be together, they stick with eachother when they have problems, they take care of eachother when they're sick, and they have an adorable 5-year-old kid that they love to bits.
That is true romance.

Originally Posted by Evil Tomato

It would seem like she'd know something about love, but a lot of people stay in marriages even when they aren't really in love anymore. For all we know, Meg Cabot could be having marriages troubles, and her descriptions of love are a fantasy of hers. You, like she's in love with that image of love.

Did that make sense?

I tend to base true love on my oldest sister's marriage, rather than a book. She and her husband are so happy to be together, even though they've gone through hard times. They tell eachother fart jokes, they love to be together, they stick with eachother when they have problems, they take care of eachother when they're sick, and they have an adorable 5-year-old kid that they love to bits.
That is true romance.

That's the same thing with my sister and her boyfriend except they don't have any kids.(yet!) So I like those true romance things because...I don't really know but it's nice to see
them together because her boyfriend comes over my house almost everyday!

heh, well, see, i now have a girlfriend (woohoo! )
for almost 2 weeks, and in 2 weeks she'll have her birthday, and i have NO clue what to give her XD
any girls here know what to give? (or guys, but i think the girls would know what she'd like)
she's a bit gothic/alternative, and she likes fairies and stuff like that, but i dunno, i was thinking of a necklace or something, i realy dont know XD
help would be appreciated

Originally Posted by Evil Tomato

It would seem like she'd know something about love, but a lot of people stay in marriages even when they aren't really in love anymore. For all we know, Meg Cabot could be having marriages troubles, and her descriptions of love are a fantasy of hers. You, like she's in love with that image of love.

Did that make sense?

I tend to base true love on my oldest sister's marriage, rather than a book. She and her husband are so happy to be together, even though they've gone through hard times. They tell eachother fart jokes, they love to be together, they stick with eachother when they have problems, they take care of eachother when they're sick, and they have an adorable 5-year-old kid that they love to bits.
That is true romance.

Okay, I'm not going to debate on what love feels like. We all have our own opinions, and those are mine.

Originally Posted by Foamy

heh, well, see, i now have a girlfriend (woohoo! )
for almost 2 weeks, and in 2 weeks she'll have her birthday, and i have NO clue what to give her XD
any girls here know what to give? (or guys, but i think the girls would know what she'd like)
she's a bit gothic/alternative, and she likes fairies and stuff like that, but i dunno, i was thinking of a necklace or something, i realy dont know XD
help would be appreciated

It seems like you are already leaning on what to get her ^_^ I think you should get her a necklace, but that's just my opinion.

Foamy, how 'bout a T-Shirt? With gothic fairies on it.

Maybe you should just try the suggestions you already gave yourself XD

well good point thanks for the advice,
but i dunno, i dont ahve that much experience with things XD
could be some unwritten rule that forbids necklaces or something XD
thanks peepz

i was thinking of this :3

I'm sure she'll be really happy if you give her that one, foamy It's lovely

What do I do? I am a Goth and I keep it from my parents except my mom (they live in different houses, but are on good terms). I have an ex-girlfriend who is pretty fat (not to be taken offensively). I dated her because I felt sorry for her. She had the same problems as me when I was in junior high. I wanted to give her this gift and then cut it off but after she was controlling and grabby. She made friends with my dad and step-mom and my little brother Anthony.
Here’s the problem. I need to break it off without hurting her feelings or else I get hell from family and her. If I leave at it is I am going to go insane.
My fix was to pretend I got a girlfriend at my mom’s house (where I live) and that long-distance relationships don’t work. She is sad but still is set on me and I don’t know how long I can keep this up. She WILL NOT look for someone else!!!!!!!!
I usually don’t need help because I am scitsofrenic so about 4 voices do it but not this time.

Try posting this in the love thread thingy. This board is for serious matters.

*merges thread*

Foamy, that is a lovely necklace, I'm sure she'll love it ^__^

Hmm... well, linkwanabe, I think it's probably best to be truthful. Don't tell her outright, y'know, "you're too grabby, I want to break up" etc etc. Just sit (or stand whichever you prefer ), and have a good talk with her, about what you think, about her problems. Tell her you want to ease/break it off. Just have a good long talk with her, then talk with your family about her and everything that's going on with her, like you did with her just take it nice and gently. I know it's not the best advice in the world, but good luck anyway

As for me? Well, my problem still stands (see my earlier post in this thread)... I want to ask her again so badly, but i'm so... scared of rejection and I'm so nervous that I just clam up. And I really feel the need to tell her, because... **OK, long post beginning here** right, I'm going to be talking very honestly here, she is so... beautiful.Her eyes behind her glasses, that smile, *the shallowness of the 'niceness' of her body if talking pervertedly, but I'm not like that*, lovely hair, she's funny, she's nice to talk to, she's just a lovely person. And she's kind of like me, in that she's a wallflower and everyday I have to struggle to say I don't love her (because I don't want to rush into anything AGAIN), but I can't do it, not really... and I'm so scared to tell her that. And I'm so scared of what'll happen if she rejects me, I just don't want her to reject me **End of long post**
So.... yeah, that's just... all my feelings about her out in the open, so you can advise me on the basis of that. I just want to ask her out so badly... spend time with her and stuff...

Um, well now....
Foamy: That necklace is gorgeous, she will love it.

linkwanabe: Break it to her gently. Tell her that while you care for her and want her to be happy (which I am certain you do), you want to end the relationship, and that you hope that you can still be on friendly terms.
She might be unhappy for a while afterwards, but that's natural. It sound to me like she has low self-esteem, so try to avoid insulting her in any way if possible.
And if she refuses to let you break it off, get out of there. In life, you need to care for yourself while still being respectful to other people. If you aren't happy, this isn't the relationship for you.
Avoid lines like "It isn't you, it's me" and such, because that usually has a negative effect.
Worst case scenario: She gets b*****. If your thinks that you are making the wrong decision and give you hell for it, tell them that you weren't happy while you were in the relationship, and that she wasn't right for you.

Jordan L: Ask her out! Better to be rejected that to never know, and always look back and wonder...
Try rehearsing in front of a mirror. It should help. Plan for every possible scenario (but don't run away!) and such. Best of luck!

linkwanabe, just tell it to her straight - You're not interested.

Jordan L: Everybody has that fear of rejection. I don't think anybody has ever not been nervous when trying to ask someone out. You just have say to yourself 'today I ask her'. Wait for an opportune, quiet moment away from everyone else. Then, just ask her out. You could pretend she wasn't there if that would make it easier to say (although, it might be a bad omen for a relationship if you pretend that she's not there). If she says no, she says no. If she says yes, good on you!

Jordan L:

I used to have that problem. Evil Tomato is right. If you don't ask her you'll never know. Thats how I got over my fear I just thought about looking back and sayin "Dammit I should have just asked her out".When I did I was given a restraining order...correction...rejected, but I would rather know so I can pray on my next person to stalk...ahem...I mean I would rather know that hang on to a glimmer of hope that she might magicaly ask me out. I asked my current girlfreind out and it's been going well ever since and the thing is my girlfriend is someone I never pictured being with. Also if she says no then mabye it just wasn't meant to happen.

oh dude, Foamz, that choker is sweeet ;0)

Oh, and I like Mr. Spork's saying, wanabe: "Today I ask her." Couldn't have put it better, myself. Just don't begin hyperventilating when the time comes :0P' Oh, and keep those voices at bay.

Could someone give the suposed definition of true love for me?

There is not. A true love is surely the love between Kalas and Xelha (thought about Baten Kaitos from the avatar)

Did you have to make the conection of my avatar. Oh well, thanks for the example(if it was one)

Uh, I don't exactly have a problem but I was just wondering. I'm at the end of 7th grade and 13. I've liked this one girl since like the end of 5th grade. She's just so beautiful and pretty and I love her personality. At the end of 6th grade a traitor told her that I liked her. She was kind of like "Whoa, that's weird" for a while. She still talks to me, just not as much. We've never really been close friends or anything. I'm always kinda nervous around her. Anyway, there's this other girl who I'm really friendly with. I'm not sure if I love her but I know that at least I really wanna be friends with her. Anyway, this other girl had to ask me out for a Truth or Dare game. She denies that she likes me. I don't really know what to do. In the words of the great Bilbo Baggins, "I feel stretched...like butter scraped over too much bread."

Play the field dude. Your bait seem to be getting the fish to bite. I'd say find someone your happy with and move on from there.