User Feedback and Apologies

Originally Posted by Zecora

I wouldn't mind some feedback.

Also, I admitted in another thread that I often have problems with taking things too personally. But how does one fix that? "Just relax" and "Don't take things at face value" are copout answers. It's a given that one should keep cool, but how do you go about doing that? How do you not let something get to you?

Maybe its because i tend to be more cavalier about junk in general but like, i guess just trying to see where the other person is coming from? Instead of over analyzing whats being said, just go with it? I dunno. Remembering that 90% of the time, when someone replies to your post with something like "Nah, SMG wasnt the best. Sunshine was." its not a personal attack. Just an opinion. Ignoring really stupid and smarmy comments is a good way too.

Originally Posted by Zecora

I wouldn't mind some feedback.

Also, I admitted in another thread that I often have problems with taking things too personally. But how does one fix that? "Just relax" and "Don't take things at face value" are copout answers. It's a given that one should keep cool, but how do you go about doing that? How do you not let something get to you?

See through another's eye. How exactly would you feel if you were the one in their place? In the case of the mods, if you were the one laying the law down to another member. In the case of an opinion, if you were disagreeing with someone else on an issue they brought up.

Originally Posted by Florinasaur

Maybe its because i tend to be more cavalier about junk in general but like, i guess just trying to see where the other person is coming from? Instead of over analyzing whats being said, just go with it? I dunno. Remembering that 90% of the time, when someone replies to your post with something like "Nah, SMG wasnt the best. Sunshine was." its not a personal attack. Just an opinion. Ignoring really stupid and smarmy comments is a good way too.

This x100. I used to take every little bitty thing as some sort of personal attack, which made it hard to get along with people. When you realize that not everyone is out to get you, it makes life easier, as well as soothe your self esteem. This sort of revelation isn't easy to trust, either: I still have issues sometimes. But it's definitely a good mindset to have.

As for me, I'm unsure of any major things to apologize about. I suppose my one regret on this forum is not making the effort to integrate myself more into the community. While I hope that I am now at least a somewhat recognizable presence to many users, I still feel bad that I'm barely on speaking terms with anyone. (Save for Gamzee and Blizz, who are some pretty cool people to talk to when you have common interests).

I'm sorry for always ruining everyone's time by expressing how I believe I am seen by others, I should just shut up and keep that to myself because I know that it makes other people feel bad for some reason and I really don't want others to feel bad because of me.

I'm also sorry about spilling my guts out about my depression and my childhood because that too makes people feel bad and I don't mean to ruin other people's time.

If I ever annoyed anyone or made someone else feel bad regarding something I said I'm sorry.

Originally Posted by Zecora

I wouldn't mind some feedback.

Also, I admitted in another thread that I often have problems with taking things too personally. But how does one fix that? "Just relax" and "Don't take things at face value" are copout answers. It's a given that one should keep cool, but how do you go about doing that? How do you not let something get to you?

I'm not exactly sure myself, but what I'd probably do is take a deep breath and tell myself, "Bro. What the crap. This is just some random dude on the internet. Don't let it get to you. I love you. You're awesome. And firetruck anyone else who thinks otherwise."

Well, maybe not exactly that. But the first 3 or 4 sentences would work, I guess.

EDIT: Or you can just play video games to help you forget about it.

OneHungryHippo: I've seen you around a lot. You still seem young, but you're a greater person than you make yourself out to be. You should know that, if you want to have a good sense of humor, you need practice. You're only fourteen, and I had a crude sense of humor, and it took me a while to use my sense of humor towards people in a way that made them laugh while never appearing like I'm trying to be funny. I'll throw this out and say that, a few times when I've seen you on the forums, I viewed you as "some silly kid." This stems from the fact that I can act apathetically every once in a while. It is a habit that I wish to break. I like how your grammar is always very correct and easy to read. In some ways, you seem 'like a kid,' but you're still a great member, and I'd feel disappointed if you left.

And I can feel for how it may seem like everyone hates you. I had a little bit of a different experience, but at age fourteen, I thought the same thing. You remind me of myself, and I emphasize that you should not let those people get you down. But instead of saying "just be yourself," I'm going to say "Judge criticism based on the source and situation. Also, don't be a ♥♥♥♥head." You're going to grow and learn, and so will those kids who probably still bully you. I don't exactly know why kids bully and criticize. I do have a good idea why people criticize on the Internet, that is, there's something about staring at a computer screen that can make us a lot more blunt when talking through the Internet.

Seriously, adolescence is ♥♥♥♥ed up. It's something that I never want to go through again. Of course, the level of how stupid and bad it can be varies between person to person. But just know that we don't hate you. Like I said, I would feel disappointed if you left. You should give some credit to yourself that none of the students who pick on you even have.

Also, great idea on the sig and av change. Mix it up a bit yo.


Zay: Honestly, you acted immature on ZU a while ago. I don't think it matters now. You're cool and a lot of people like you. I have no other feedback, at least the moment. It's all water under the bridge from my point of view.



And this probably doesn't matter, but to the Farore clan, remember a long time ago before I left ZU? Back then, I used to act like, well, a silly kid, in my opinion. I remember getting booted from Farore skype for acting like an idiot and never really talking with any of you. I didn't act that well. Now that I'm regularly posting there again, I'd like to apologize for I acted long ago. I know that I used to act that way two years ago and almost all of you have probably forgotten me from that time, but I'd still like to emphasize that I've changed tremendously since then. That year off that I took from here was a great decision on my part towards ZU. I came back and actually learned how to make friends on here and contribute to the community haha, even though I still felt bad about my myself behind closed doors. However, as of now, I don't think I've ever had this much confidence in myself in who knows how long?
So, like other members who've posted in here, tell me anything that has caused you to raise an eyebrow or view me in any negative way, if I've done something wrong.

Originally Posted by Zecora

How do you not let things get to you

The only real answer is that you just don't. Don't over think things, take insults in stride, etc. it's really a state of mind. I don't think it's teachable. You just have to force yourself to not give a ♥♥♥♥, and eventually it becomes passive.


Anywho I wouldn't mind hearing some feedback.

Is it bad if I feel I have nothing to apologize for?
*shrugs*


Maybe I should apologize for not apologizing.
Oh god the paradoxes.

@Farore

Sorry for leaving like a ♥♥♥♥♥ last summer/fall.

@Avalanchemike

Hope you didn't take my April 1 PM too seriously when you first read it. I just put together a bunch of things that I figure mods get accused of and tried to make it look like a legitimate complaint. I figured if you weren't guilty of the things I said, then you'd be angry that someone would accuse you of false behavior, and if you were guilty, you would just be angry . The "I hope someone takes a ♥♥♥♥ in your mouth might have been a little overboard, I'll admit.

@Amy, Chris

I apologize for not caring much for either of you when I got active last year. You're all pretty great though.

Originally Posted by OneHungryHippo

See through another's eye. How exactly would you feel if you were the one in their place? In the case of the mods, if you were the one laying the law down to another member. In the case of an opinion, if you were disagreeing with someone else on an issue they brought up.

But then wouldn't this make me feel deserving of their wrath and I start beating myself up as well?

i guess ill apologise (i dont care if you feedback or not, but its best to say it):
i apologise for being a complete ♥♥♥♥♥ and ass around the forums sometimes. Being stressed and constantly working has been makung me tired and its been taking a lot of pressure on me. I cant keep up with promises i make with members and im late with everything. And due to me feeling like this, im slowly disappearing cause i feel like im annoying everyone with my ♥♥♥♥.
I also sometimes think that mosy members who do say they appreciate me or whatever are just saying it and not meaning it.

I know im not trying to hard and whatever, but i feel like i still bother people with my crap.

And im sorry if i do annoy or just irritate you guys oh soso much

I apologize for being pretty cool and stealing the Best Poet award right from under Holden's nose.

Anyone want to apologize to me?

Originally Posted by Gamzee

Anyone want to apologize to me?

Originally Posted by Me

@Amy, Chris

I apologize for not caring much for either of you when I got active last year. You're all pretty great though.

Also, I've no problem if someone wants to give me feedback. Though if it's just going to be something positive, I'd rather just have that type of thing in VM/PM.

I'd like to get some criticism.

I am sorry.

That I questioned what the right thing was and if it would make everyone happy.

I should have done the right thing, not the thing that would have made everyone happy.... at least at first. Because if I had done the right thing, maybe we would have been happier. Maybe things would have been easier. Who can know. But I am sorry.

That I questioned what I knew to be right instead of just doing it.

I am sorry that I tried to make you happy.

Because regardless of whether or not hings would have been easier, happiness does not matter as much as doing the right thing.

You do it. Regardless of who it pleases or displeases.

Originally Posted by Gamzee

I apologize for being pretty cool and stealing the Best Poet award right from under Holden's nose.

Anyone want to apologize to me?

Great amount of humility....

Sorry for being annoying at times

Originally Posted by Gamzee

I apologize for being pretty cool and stealing the Best Poet award right from under Holden's nose.

Anyone want to apologize to me?

This isn't really an apology, but when I first joined ZU and your name was the Unknown Soldier or whatever you scared the ♥♥♥♥ out of me.
(but now I know that you're just a ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥ cute little puppydog)

I apologize for my early to mid teen years. Just about anyone who remembers my time as "Ender" probably remembers an ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥. That was all pretty uncalled for, but I thought it was hillllarious. Sorry to StoneyLonesome, wherever she's at these days. I feel like I was part of a crew that probably made her cry a few times out of frustration. Yeah that was lame. Sorry I tricked you guys into thinking Tim was dead.

Uh. Sorry for being a gaming elitist and Halo fanboy, sorry for putting down Twilight Princess in countless threads, sorry for calling a lot of people stupid a lot of different times. And yeah. Some other stuff probably.

Feedback? Haha.

Originally Posted by Captain Cornflake

I apologize for NOTHING

I should actually apologize for going to bed early instead of staying up drink with you the other day.

Guys, try to keep one-liners to the minimum. This is a serious-labeled thread, treat is seriously. Don't post if you can't add anything to the thread.

Thank you in advance.

Alex: I wasn't here in your glory days, but your collected presence is welcome here. What I have seen, your intellectual contribution can be fantastic.

I would like to apologize for acting like a little child. I really need to grow up. I am sorry for the way I act. Please call me out on things and correct me. I really act immature. I am sorry.

I would like to apologize to Aurelia. I am sorry for pestering you. Ever since I joined, I have been a nuisance. I have acted stupidly, and I have continued to be a jerk. If you could forgive me for my immaturity. I am trying to grow up. I want to quit acting the way I do. I'm sorry.

Kayla, I'm sorry for what I did when I VMed you. I'm truly sorry. I was being stupid. Please forgive me.

Youmu (or whatever you go by now), I am sorry for hurting your feelings. As well, I apologize for calling you a fool. You are not the fool. I am. I am sorry.

Morgan (if he is still a user), I apologize for continually saying "hey" everyday. I didn't mean to annoy you. I am very sorry.

Brian, I am sorry for the times where I would continually talk to you saying "hey". I have refrained from VMing you to let you know I am trying to change. I am sorry for asking you questions about things frequently.

Solsetur, I'm sorry for not responding on your game quickly. It read rude, and I am sorry.

Liah, I am sorry for always causing problems.

EL, I am sorry for being a jerk to you when I first joined.