Women's Advice Thread

I'm not entirely sure what I'm asking for here.
Advice, understanding, something along those lines.

In September, I started college and was finally able to get my license. I've been extremely responsible throughout high school. I was an honor roll student, I skipped a grade, had an above average SAT score, never missed curfew without a legitimate reason, and never took part in illegal activities. I had a rough time in high school though--my mom commit suicide freshman year, I was in a highly abusive relationship for two years and I was raped. I did well despite my circumstances.

After getting my license, I was driving the spare car we have (my dad has two cars, though I'm not sure why) mainly because he was hesitant to put another car on the insurance. Over the years I've saved up enough money to pay for a new-ish car without taking out any loans. I've saved $12,000 to be exact. That money is sitting in the bank right now.

I prided myself in following the rules of the road. I didn't speed, tailgate, run red lights or stop signs, or even use my phone in the car. I kept both hands on the wheel. I was a responsible driver and everyone made fun of me for it. I had my license for three weeks... and got into an accident which totaled the car. A cat ran across the road in front of me and without thinking I swerved instead of hit the breaks. The car side swiped a mailbox. Happens, right?

Well my air-bags went off immediately after side swiping the mailbox. I was completely blind, and I tried to hit the breaks but the car kept jerking around. I was scared out of my mind and then I felt the car slam into something. When I got out of the car I was pretty shocked at what happened.

You know those houses you see on main roads, where the property is actually a few feet above the ground level of the road? They usually put some kind of rock or brick wall up around it so that you're not just looking at the dirt slope on the sides. This rock wall was about three feet high and on an incline.

The car had driven up it. The frame was damaged and the entire underside of the car was destroyed.

I was able to get home safely and a police report was filed and everything. The air bag had inflicted second degree chemical/friction burns all over my right hand/wrist and there were some deep cuts going up my right forearm. I was relatively unscathed. But the car is toast.

I drove responsibly. I never did anything reckless in the car. And for what? I get into an accident because I reacted stupidly when an animal crossed the road. Now people are talking about me behind my back, saying that I'm a bad driver, and that I was probably speeding, and that I'm that stereotypical seventeen year old who abused their license.

It's been four days since the accident. The only thing my dad has bothered to talk about with me is how I totaled his car and how this is why he didn't want me getting my license. Not one ounce of concern or sympathy. He literally has been rubbing in my face what I did to his car and is trying to make me feel as bad as possible. The money I saved up for my car... it's my money. I had this car picked out in my price range that was low on mileage and I'm in love with. I found several in the area and have been trying to get to dealerships to look at them.

Now he's saying that he is going to take MY money, and buy a car that's "convenient" for him. He doesn't care if it's a piece of **** that's ten years old. He doesn't care if it has 70,000 miles on it. Basically, he knows about my dream car and how badly I want it, and he wants to punish me by spending the money on something entirely different. I actually had an appointment this Saturday to check out that car and take it for a test drive. It's IN MY PRICE RANGE. He made me cancel the appointment and said I don't deserve the car.

I am feeling horrible about this entire situation. I've been extremely angry with myself over the accident and feeling extremely guilty about the car. The guilt that already existed was made worse when my dad kept rubbing it in my face. I tried SO HARD to be responsible and prove myself and one accident ruined everything. Accidents happen every day. That's just life. When someone else gets into an accident, that's what they say.

But everyone around me is questioning my credibility now. Me. The straight A student, who never got in trouble with the law, never drove recklessly. Suddenly I'm being treated like I'm some irresponsible teenager who can't be trusted and I'm having everything I worked hard for taken away from me.

I've applied to eighteen places over the past month. One called me back and rejected me because of my age. The economy is making it extremely difficult for me to get a job at all. There are just so many things that I'm trying so hard to succeed in and it's not working. I'm trying to stay positive, I really am.

I just don't know what to do. I know I probably sound stuck up and self righteous... but I'm not really. I spent years being responsible because I thought it would pay off and now I've just had it all shoved in my face. Bear with me, please.

Also, wow, sorry. that was long.
if anyone actually finished reading all of that I'll love them forever,

(day off today, woo, free time! xD )

kreebby--

Firstly, that sucks that people react that way. I understand it can be really hurtful. I think part of the oh-she's-such-a-bad-driver attitude comes from the fact you've hardly been in trouble at all. See, if it becomes something that's expected, you getting into troublesome situations, people will still talk though for some it won't be any major news since "they're doing it again *eyeroll*". But when it's someone who takes them by surprise, well, there are people who'll just get the attitude that I-thought-I-knew-her! It's more shocking since it's a rare thing for you to screw up that way. I promise I'm not excusing the attitude, if anything it disgusts me, but just trying to shed some light on it for ya.

Anyway, about your dad:

If it really has been that long since the accident, I don't think his attitude is in the right. It wasn't your fault, but he's treating you like it is. That's not cool. I would think he'd be happy you were okay after that crash. Eck. He's gotta learn to let **** go =/

However, since you were driving at the time, I'm going to be honest with you--if it were me, I'd try to make up for what happened anyway. I would probably give my Dad some of my savings for his car and try to buy a cheaper car for myself. Or I'd keep saving. I mean, I know that you've worked your ass off for that money but part of being an adult is taking responsibility for your mistakes and though it wasn't YOUR fault the cat ran across the road, it's still falling under you since you were behind the wheel.

I... don't think my Dad would expect me to pay him back at all. He'd be grateful I was okay. I think, though, if I offered to give something back he'd see that as me trying to be an adult about the whole thing. He'd respect that, I think.

My suggestion to you would be to come up with a compromise with your dad. Maybe you could, like I said, give him some money and go for a cheaper car. Or maybe you could suggest he could use the car with you when you buy it. I was going to suggest moving out if he was really making your life uncomfortable, but I've never been the type to advise in leaving situations as a bad one... still, like you already are, keep an eye out for places just in case. Of course, you could get your car and pay your dad off bit by bit. That way, he can be compensated for what he lost and you can keep your dream car.

Regardless, really sitting down and talking things through with your old man sounds necessary, if only to tell him he's driving you away with his attitude. He lost a car, yeah, but does he really want to lose his relationship with his daughter.

That's a sticky situation you're in, dear. I really hope things pull through for you.

*sidles in, reads Kreebies thing*

hmm that sucks, talk to your father every and convince him NOT to take your money. Your credibility will return in time, people will forget eventually. **** happens, people will forgive and forget eventually =) feel better, k?

DX I forgot to sidle out!

*sidles out*

Originally Posted by Mr. 32

*sidles in, reads Kreebies thing*

hmm that sucks, talk to your father every and convince him NOT to take your money. Your credibility will return in time, people will forget eventually. **** happens, people will forgive and forget eventually =) feel better, k?

DX I forgot to sidle out!

*sidles out*

Thank-you mysterious sidler.

Originally Posted by Liah

(day off today, woo, free time! xD )

kreebby--

Firstly, that sucks that people react that way. I understand it can be really hurtful. I think part of the oh-she's-such-a-bad-driver attitude comes from the fact you've hardly been in trouble at all. See, if it becomes something that's expected, you getting into troublesome situations, people will still talk though for some it won't be any major news since "they're doing it again *eyeroll*". But when it's someone who takes them by surprise, well, there are people who'll just get the attitude that I-thought-I-knew-her! It's more shocking since it's a rare thing for you to screw up that way. I promise I'm not excusing the attitude, if anything it disgusts me, but just trying to shed some light on it for ya.

That definitely did make me feel a bit better about it. When I look at it from that perspective... it's easier to understand.

Originally Posted by Liah

If it really has been that long since the accident, I don't think his attitude is in the right. It wasn't your fault, but he's treating you like it is. That's not cool. I would think he'd be happy you were okay after that crash. Eck. He's gotta learn to let **** go =/

I said four days, right? I don't see it as a long time but I think at this point he should have at least been able to think it through and realized what really mattered.

So... thanks.

Originally Posted by Liah

However, since you were driving at the time, I'm going to be honest with you--if it were me, I'd try to make up for what happened anyway. I would probably give my Dad some of my savings for his car and try to buy a cheaper car for myself. Or I'd keep saving. I mean, I know that you've worked your ass off for that money but part of being an adult is taking responsibility for your mistakes and though it wasn't YOUR fault the cat ran across the road, it's still falling under you since you were behind the wheel.

I actually did this the day of the accident. I told him to use some of my savings to repair the car if it was fixable. He refused, saying that it was my money and he wasn't going to spend it, especially considering how he's the one with the job and I'm not. So that makes me a mature adult, right? Thanks.

Originally Posted by Liah

My suggestion to you would be to come up with a compromise with your dad. Maybe you could, like I said, give him some money and go for a cheaper car. Or maybe you could suggest he could use the car with you when you buy it. I was going to suggest moving out if he was really making your life uncomfortable, but I've never been the type to advise in leaving situations as a bad one... still, like you already are, keep an eye out for places just in case. Of course, you could get your car and pay your dad off bit by bit. That way, he can be compensated for what he lost and you can keep your dream car.

The compromise I made was that if the insurance rates go up, I'll help pay the difference once I get a job. I'm going to start applying to universities in the spring so that I can dorm. Dorming would put some distance between us without leaving me in some expensive apartment where I'm broke. I'm offering anything I can right now but he's not taking it. I'm starting to think that he just wants to be angry about the situation.

Originally Posted by Liah

Regardless, really sitting down and talking things through with your old man sounds necessary, if only to tell him he's driving you away with his attitude. He lost a car, yeah, but does he really want to lose his relationship with his daughter.

That's a sticky situation you're in, dear. I really hope things pull through for you.

I'll definitely heed your advice. You're an angel, thank-you so much!

^Four days! xDD Sorry! Talk about misreading somethng like a moron xD. Still, hearing your response tells me you are handling this best you can and your dad, well, he needs to focus a bit more on that you're okay from the accident >_o;;; Maybe give him a bit of time to cool down, then. The incident is still fresh (four years LOL, idiot xD *head-desk*) so he might need some time to calm down. Maybe after that, you guys can talk.

And you're welcome (: (you too, Chibi!)

Uh, don't wanna toot my own horn, but anybody good with birth control?

'Sup Eve

Birth control, eh? I've only ever been on the pill and, well, went with condoms. The pill, I fortunately didn't suffer any side effects, though I've friends who've suffered major weight gain, headaches, depression. I've had friends who've gone on the minipill which is better for smokers, women who might be a little overweight. Remebering to take your pill at the right time can cause slip ups, too.

I think the injection you only take every six months or so? (I'll have to double-check that) but that's the plus side. However, I think some of the downers include off-and-on bleeding, weight gain and I think for some girls their ability to get pregnant again can take a while after they stop getting the injection. I've been told up to a year, but again I'm not sure.

Obviously, there are condoms which are easy to access and when used right, are effective. Be wary of the usual stuff--tearing, gets >_< sometimes when y'all have to stop and he's got to put it on, blah blah. Still, it doesn't mess with ya hormones.

Um, what else. Oh! There's the cervical cap. I know a lady who went with this option. They can be inserted like... six or seven hours before intercourse, and like stay in for a day or so afterward. Uses spermicide. I think the sucky thing about it can do something not-so-good to the bladder, though I forget what it's called. Eeep, sorry for not knowing this stuff well enough x:

There's the IUD, but I forget what it stands for. It's inserted in the lady and stops the fertilisation of the egg. Another one not to mess with the hormones, good good. Some of the drawbacks include heavy periods, risks of inflammatory pelvic stuff and ya gotta check on it annually.

That's about all I know of birth control off the top of my head, though I'll probably double-check my information when I get home later. Hope that was of some use to you, Eve!

Edit: Ninja'd Margar! xD <3

Originally Posted by Breeze

Uh, don't wanna toot my own horn, but anybody good with birth control?

huh?
what is that supposed to mean?
I think you misunderstand the meaning of that expression...

I know about B.C. whaddya need?

EDIT: Ninja'd by Liah!

There's also the ring,which has the same medicine as the pill, but it's in a plastic ring that you insert, and it stays in there for 3 weeks,then you take it out for one. you can take it out for up to 3 hours (for sex or whatever you need to take it out for...?) I'm on the ring and I like it a lot.

I.U.D. stands for intra-uterine device,and it's semi-permanent(as in, months/years at a time).

There's also a patch you can put on, almost like a big bandage you put on your lower body. You change it every week, and is basically a similar thing to the pill except you don't swallow it.

Oh, and for the pill, always remember to take it on time. I've been late a few times, which is fine, but only twice have I forgotten to take it until the next day. And whenever I took two pills at once I got really sick the next day.

Originally Posted by Margar

huh?
what is that supposed to mean?
I think you misunderstand the meaning of that expression...

I think she used it pretty well. :P

I don't have much to add onto what Liah and Margar said, but this might be a useful read. Specifically:

http://www.scarleteen.com/birth_cont...r_non_hormonal
http://www.scarleteen.com/article/pi...th_a_second_me

Those ones would be the ones you're after, I think. Going by what I've seen and heard, pill/condom seems to be a pretty common and reliable method.

I'm just really torn because I'm crazy picky. I want to avoid hormones because really, we don't know what kind of long-term affects in can have (like, children and children's children can be affected), plus I don't like the risks involved for me or any children we might have in the future.

I had made arrangements to use natural family planning, and went to a class and prepared for three months prior just because it's what was ideal for us. Problem is that I happen to be fertile as volcanic soil, and it kinda limits us heavily (like, I have about ten "safe" days a month. That's it. Hello, not going to work).

So I'm thinking a barrier method is most ideal. However, I don't like the fact that I have to have a barrier between us.

Liah- I thought the iud allowed for fertilization, but prevented implantation. Maybe I'm wrong?

Pani- The article is actually quite helpful, thank you. =3

The whole situation really sucks. Setting aside my own comfort, I've been raised to dislike anything that isn't "natural" birth control. Buuut at this point, I really don't even feel safe, setting aside the fact that it makes for a terrible way to start off a sex-life. (Worst honeymoon ever. x_x)

I have a better understanding now, though, so thank you ladies. <3

(so now lets pray that it isn't too late!)

Originally Posted by kreebby

I'm not entirely sure what I'm asking for here.
Advice, understanding, something along those lines.

In September, I started college and was finally able to get my license. I've been extremely responsible throughout high school. I was an honor roll student, I skipped a grade, had an above average SAT score, never missed curfew without a legitimate reason, and never took part in illegal activities. I had a rough time in high school though--my mom commit suicide freshman year, I was in a highly abusive relationship for two years and I was raped. I did well despite my circumstances.

After getting my license, I was driving the spare car we have (my dad has two cars, though I'm not sure why) mainly because he was hesitant to put another car on the insurance. Over the years I've saved up enough money to pay for a new-ish car without taking out any loans. I've saved $12,000 to be exact. That money is sitting in the bank right now.

I prided myself in following the rules of the road. I didn't speed, tailgate, run red lights or stop signs, or even use my phone in the car. I kept both hands on the wheel. I was a responsible driver and everyone made fun of me for it. I had my license for three weeks... and got into an accident which totaled the car. A cat ran across the road in front of me and without thinking I swerved instead of hit the breaks. The car side swiped a mailbox. Happens, right?

Well my air-bags went off immediately after side swiping the mailbox. I was completely blind, and I tried to hit the breaks but the car kept jerking around. I was scared out of my mind and then I felt the car slam into something. When I got out of the car I was pretty shocked at what happened.

You know those houses you see on main roads, where the property is actually a few feet above the ground level of the road? They usually put some kind of rock or brick wall up around it so that you're not just looking at the dirt slope on the sides. This rock wall was about three feet high and on an incline.

The car had driven up it. The frame was damaged and the entire underside of the car was destroyed.

I was able to get home safely and a police report was filed and everything. The air bag had inflicted second degree chemical/friction burns all over my right hand/wrist and there were some deep cuts going up my right forearm. I was relatively unscathed. But the car is toast.

I drove responsibly. I never did anything reckless in the car. And for what? I get into an accident because I reacted stupidly when an animal crossed the road. Now people are talking about me behind my back, saying that I'm a bad driver, and that I was probably speeding, and that I'm that stereotypical seventeen year old who abused their license.

It's been four days since the accident. The only thing my dad has bothered to talk about with me is how I totaled his car and how this is why he didn't want me getting my license. Not one ounce of concern or sympathy. He literally has been rubbing in my face what I did to his car and is trying to make me feel as bad as possible. The money I saved up for my car... it's my money. I had this car picked out in my price range that was low on mileage and I'm in love with. I found several in the area and have been trying to get to dealerships to look at them.

Now he's saying that he is going to take MY money, and buy a car that's "convenient" for him. He doesn't care if it's a piece of **** that's ten years old. He doesn't care if it has 70,000 miles on it. Basically, he knows about my dream car and how badly I want it, and he wants to punish me by spending the money on something entirely different. I actually had an appointment this Saturday to check out that car and take it for a test drive. It's IN MY PRICE RANGE. He made me cancel the appointment and said I don't deserve the car.

I am feeling horrible about this entire situation. I've been extremely angry with myself over the accident and feeling extremely guilty about the car. The guilt that already existed was made worse when my dad kept rubbing it in my face. I tried SO HARD to be responsible and prove myself and one accident ruined everything. Accidents happen every day. That's just life. When someone else gets into an accident, that's what they say.

But everyone around me is questioning my credibility now. Me. The straight A student, who never got in trouble with the law, never drove recklessly. Suddenly I'm being treated like I'm some irresponsible teenager who can't be trusted and I'm having everything I worked hard for taken away from me.

I've applied to eighteen places over the past month. One called me back and rejected me because of my age. The economy is making it extremely difficult for me to get a job at all. There are just so many things that I'm trying so hard to succeed in and it's not working. I'm trying to stay positive, I really am.

I just don't know what to do. I know I probably sound stuck up and self righteous... but I'm not really. I spent years being responsible because I thought it would pay off and now I've just had it all shoved in my face. Bear with me, please.

Also, wow, sorry. that was long.
if anyone actually finished reading all of that I'll love them forever,

Of course we read it.

I thought you were a stuck-up camwhore, but I sympathize with you.

I was in a car accident that was my own fault last year. I was extremely tired and nodded off at the wheel, hitting a car in front of me at about a 15mph difference. Five minutes earlier, I had thought of pulling off the highway to take a nap, but I didn't, thinking I was good to drive the couple more miles home. Neither car was damaged, but the car in front of me had a pregnant girl inside. I had a seizure due to me worrying about the baby, and was taken to the hospital. I was desperate to not be considered just another stupid teenager with terrible driving habits. That part I can understand so, so well.

But I haven't had my father overreact like that. That is horrid, and I am sorry you have to experience that. That is indeed your money, and I can empathize with wanting to do with your money what you want, especially in this economy. I've applied to over 18 places recently as well, and it's ridiculous how nowhere is open. I suppose that's to be expected, but it doesn't make it easier on any of us.

A fellow straight-A student is here for you. A fellow responsible, level-headed girl is here for you. A fellow friend is here for you. We're all here for you.

I'm sorry about your current situation.
I think that you and your father should sit down and have an adult-to-adult talk about this. Tell him how this entire accident has made you feel, and tell him how hard you have worked all of your life and that you do not deserve such treatment.
Of course, you want to be respectful and such, but still get your point instilled into your dad.
Or it if you think that you may not be good enough to verbally expressing your feelings, you could always write a letter and give it to him.
I wish for the best ^_^

Also, I have a question.
How can one leave hints that you're absolutely nuts over them without being too forward?
I'm asking because I've been friends with this guy since this school year began, and now I'll do almost anything to make him mine. Any suggestions? Thanks. ^//^
Sorry if I seem too fangirl-ish or anything here, it's just how I worded everything...

Originally Posted by Viiaara

I'm sorry about your current situation.
I think that you and your father should sit down and have an adult-to-adult talk about this. Tell him how this entire accident has made you feel, and tell him how hard you have worked all of your life and that you do not deserve such treatment.
Of course, you want to be respectful and such, but still get your point instilled into your dad.
Or it if you think that you may not be good enough to verbally expressing your feelings, you could always write a letter and give it to him.
I wish for the best ^_^

Also, I have a question.
How can one leave hints that you're absolutely nuts over them without being too forward?
I'm asking because I've been friends with this guy since this school year began, and now I'll do almost anything to make him mine. Any suggestions? Thanks. ^//^
Sorry if I seem too fangirl-ish or anything here, it's just how I worded everything...

Just talk to him one day and ask how he feels about you, and say that you like him.

Trust me, it's not the end of the world if he rejects your feelings. You may feel a little upset but it has nothing to do with you personally. Seriously. Just think about it like this: have you ever had friends of the opposite gender that you didn't have feelings for? If you did, it was just because you didn't see them that way. You still thought they were interesting people, but you didn't see them as a boyfriend.

It's just like with guys. I highly doubt that a guy will reject you because he thinks something is wrong with you. Nothing is wrong with you.

Go for it. <3

I suck at motivating people.

Originally Posted by Breeze

So I'm thinking a barrier method is most ideal. However, I don't like the fact that I have to have a barrier between us.

Unless either of you is allergic to latex, you won't notice.

Originally Posted by Breeze

I'm just really torn because I'm crazy picky. I want to avoid hormones because really, we don't know what kind of long-term affects in can have (like, children and children's children can be affected), plus I don't like the risks involved for me or any children we might have in the future.

http://www.youngwomenshealth.org/med-uses-ocp.html

Does the birth control pill cause birth defects?

The Pill does not cause birth defects or affect the health of future children.

I know that's not exactly much proof or reassurance, but I've never read or heard anywhere that said the pill was harmful to their children in future.

Originally Posted by Breeze

I had made arrangements to use natural family planning, and went to a class and prepared for three months prior just because it's what was ideal for us. Problem is that I happen to be fertile as volcanic soil, and it kinda limits us heavily (like, I have about ten "safe" days a month. That's it. Hello, not going to work).

Natural family planning isn't exactly the safest method. :x Like I know if that was all I planned on using as contraception I'd constantly be worried as hell that it failed. A lot of places that talk about birth control methods don't list NFP because it's not exactly regarded as a reliable method. Of course the success of it raises if you talk the proper precautions (with the testing and the temperatures and everything) but that would seem like such a hassle to me. More so than using a condom or taking a pill, I guess.

Originally Posted by Breeze

So I'm thinking a barrier method is most ideal. However, I don't like the fact that I have to have a barrier between us.

I can't speak for female barriers, but you won't be able to feel a condom.

Originally Posted by Breeze

Liah- I thought the iud allowed for fertilization, but prevented implantation. Maybe I'm wrong?

http://www.wisegeek.com/how-do-iuds-work.htm Might be helpful.

Originally Posted by Breeze

The whole situation really sucks. Setting aside my own comfort, I've been raised to dislike anything that isn't "natural" birth control. Buuut at this point, I really don't even feel safe, setting aside the fact that it makes for a terrible way to start off a sex-life. (Worst honeymoon ever. x_x)

If you're still worried about hormone levels in the pill or whatever, you might want to look into minipills. They're less effective than the combination ones though, so you'd probably want to back it up with a barrier method just to be safe.

Unlike the combination pill, the mini-pill uses only one hormone, progestin, to achieve this. That hormone thickens cervical mucus to impair sperm mobility so they have a tough time getting into the uterus. They may also sometimes suppress ovulation. Because it does not act in three different ways like the combination pill does, minipills are slightly less effective. It is also far more important to take progestin-only minipills on time each day, so they have a lower typical use rate, which may be even lower for adolescents.

So, there is this guy who...is not attractive at all and who is quite older than me. I didn't mind talking to him at first, because he is from Gabon and my uncle's wife is from there, and he is very funny. Also, I have a friend (originally from Congo) who enjoys his company.

Well.

A few weeks ago, he started calling me. When I would answer, he would just be like, "Ehh...Ca va? (how's it going)" and just basically say nothing of importance. I found this strange, and naturally, my little radars started going off,telling me that perhaps he had developed a crush on me, though the thought of it made me feel a bit queasy. This suspicion was further enforced by him calling me to ask if he could join me for lunch, though I shortly had to leave after he arrived to go study (I left him with this other guy, so I wouldn't be completely abandoning him and have to feel guilty).

Then, yesterday, my friend referred to him as my "boyfriend", and told me my suspicions were true--he liked me. Now, today, he called me THREE TIMES, all of which I ignored.

I know I'm being immature about this, but...it just makes me kind of sick. This type of thing ALWAYS happens to me, and it always ends badly, no matter how I go about it. I really just want to run away from the sitation, but...ehhhhhhhh

Weeeelllllll... I'd say he's either unfathomably socially awkward, or a complete stalker. I've had an encounter before with the latter... well more like both at the same time. Not directly of course, mind you, but indirectly. Basically he followed a bunch of girls everywhere and called them all of the time, sometimes even asking if they wanted to do it or is he could see their tits. This guy wasn't exactly on the high end of the attractiveness scale, either, so it's sort of similar to your situation only he isn't openly trying to sexually harass you.

Honestly, how old is this guy? If he's substantially older, for example 20 years, you may want to call the police. If it's a few years or so, then like I said before... He's either irrationally in love with you or he's a*serial* killer. Out of probability, I'd say he's just in love with you. In either case, get a bodyguard. Or a taser. Your call.

Edit: Or, you could just tell him straight forward to **** off... In a much nicer way of course.

Edit2: Did I seriously put "Cereal Killer" in there?

Originally Posted by Xeves

Weeeelllllll... I'd say he's either unfathomably socially awkward, or a complete stalker. I've had an encounter before with the latter... well more like both at the same time. Not directly of course, mind you, but indirectly. Basically he followed a bunch of girls everywhere and called them all of the time, sometimes even asking if they wanted to do it or is he could see their tits. This guy wasn't exactly on the high end of the attractiveness scale, either, so it's sort of similar to your situation only he isn't openly trying to sexually harass you.

Honestly, how old is this guy? If he's substantially older, for example 20 years, you may want to call the police. If it's a few years or so, then like I said before... He's either irrationally in love with you or he's a cereal killer. Out of probability, I'd say he's just in love with you. In either case, get a bodyguard. Or a taser. Your call.

Hide the Fruit Loops!

AnywaysJust tell the dude off, and if this happens to you a ot you must be very attractive and an amazin person.

Originally Posted by Puck

**** has four letters in it BTW.

Yeh, I know, the dashes were last minute additions.

No, just a few years older. I wouldn't describe him as socially awkward, but...aieee. He's on a different level than I am, if that makes any sense, and I just...he creeps me out a bit, now knowing (or at least having an idea) of what he's thinking when he sees me, et cetera. I wish I had super-ninja skills to erase my number from his phone.

I do not like this. I do not like it one bit. :<