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Originally Posted by Antigone  Am I the only one who doesn't see cheating as a big deal? :/
I mean, yeah of course I'd be hurt if my partner cheated on me, but you know what? ♥♥♥♥ happens. Some people just can't be satisfied with one person. You can't expect one person to give you everything you ever needed in life, mentally, emotionally, sexually, etc. Just because I'm that person's girlfriend/whatever, it doesn't give me the rights to them. I don't own them just because I'm in a relationship with them. I have no right to say who they can't be with just because they happen to be with me. If I caught my partner cheating, I'd ask them why, and see if we could fix the reasons why she was cheating. I wouldn't label them as some criminal or call them awful. I'd still love her and accept the fact that she's her own person. I would be hurt, yes, but people are people. People are complicated. People are fickle. You can't expect your partner to be 100% satisfied with you and then get mad at THEM for it. If someone has cheated on you, it's because one or both of you have problems to work out, so I think it's unfair to go "RAH RAH cheaters are awful selfish people RAH RAH burn them at the stake!"
As for porn, I wouldn't care. It's just porn. |
Mhm, this is why I would give my partner a second chance and try to talk about why he wanted to cheat on me in the first place - and hopefully resolve the problem.
However, I still believe that if someone has an issue with me and we are in a relationship, then do speak up and tell me - because it's much better and more effective that betraying me, humiliating me, disrespecting me and shaking the fundamentals of my trust.
I am not saying a cheater is a completely bad person (I genuinely believe no one is 100% bad, but I'm a naive idealist); but I sure know that cheating is not an acceptable approach to an issue and it's an unacceptable way to react to a problem.
That said, I'd still be okay with one
faux pas.