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Originally Posted by brokenjoker  I agree with you here. Totally.
I always thought this. When I would date people, I never had the dying urge to have sex with them (excuse the details), but I found I had a stronger urge just to touch them.. sounds wrong, but I mean in the sense that you stated above.
As for the actual topic, I'm really for both things. I've seen many a people who have waited until after marriage, and they're quite happy with the choices that they've made, and then I've seen those who didn't wait till marriage, and they're still together and quite happy. I think you just need to be smart about it.
Sex is a pretty powerful thing, and I don't care what others say otherwise. I've seen what it's done to people, including myself. Some for the better, some for the worse.
But whatever! Just be smart is all I really care about. |
I am a big touching person. I love to tease, pleasure, and even sexually pleasure/tease XD Hey, I'm a guy, I like to be pervy
But yeah, for me it's all about tickling, massaging, rubbing, cuddling, kissing, lic-erf, best not tell all the details
There's two things that contribute to the majority of failed marriages:
- Not getting to know each other enough before marriage... Aka, rushing to it instead of talking things over and understanding each other to truly love each other for who they are.
- Confusing love with sex, thinking great sex (which can seem like love from the possible foreplay) means they're the one. Sometimes this can be added with sexual 'accidents' where a kid is in the picture.
There's also the "people change" issue, but normally it's because of the first option. There can always be exceptions to the reasons, such as accidents or what not with each others preferences.
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Originally Posted by Marshmallow Moo In my personal opinion, I think it's not entirely wise to give yourself to a person you're not sure you will end up with for the rest of your life, or at least for a long time. You see, sex creates a chemical bond in the human body that emotionally ties you to your parter. If you leave that person, not only will it devastate you emotionally, but you will remember that person for the rest of your life. This is, of course, strongest for the first time someone has sex.
On another argument, having premarital sex can create all sorts of problems like unwanted children and STD's. While either of those do not go away once married, they become statistically less likely.
I suppose premarital sex is a person's own choice, but I suggest you at least get to know a person VERY WELL before you do it. If you don't, very unwanted situations are likely to arise. |
Sex is not the same as love. You're not chemically bonded, since you retain your liquids and what not, with anything that could have been transmitted to the other body is on it's way to disposal. Of course STDs and child birth are different in that regard.
Statistically, people cheat on each other and others have lost the lust and love in their relations. Holding off til marriage could also rush decisions for the sake of knowing how a certain aspect is experienced. So, it's not healthy to run relationships off sex, it's a unstable asset and will cause the relationship to crumble if it's the main support beam in your house of love.
So while I agree with safe sex and not whoring yourself out, finding love and "getting it on" is just fine, as long as both sides are fine with it and safety is taken. Sex is not a big deal otherwise, though it 'can' be a negative big deal if handled wrong.