I never saw any of the 3D Links as me ever. To me Link is no more or less an avatar than Mario is IMO. I never bought into this silent protagonist automatically equals avatar nonsense since Mario is a silent protagonist and is never considered as an avatar. I think the reason
OOT, WW, and
TP Link are never portrayed as Cassanova/Romeo types is because their in game character/personalities don't fit that concept at all in the first place. I think the new Wii Zelda game with a more mature Link with less boyish innocence will make more sense to having Link finally paired up with someone IMO.