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Originally Posted by sugarpoultry
When we were first dating, my (now) husband and I didn't say we loved each other until we knew we loved each other.
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I actually sort of agree with you here (I know, I'm practically falling off my chair XD).
Firstly, there is something that sort of irks me about the way the word "love" is used. Actually, I think it's a bit of a flaw in our language. "Love" covers so many sensations and emotions and relationships under the one word, but people talk about there being a "true" love. I find that silly. Love is long-lasting or fleeting, physical or sexual or spiritual or just because you need someone to keep you sane or whatever. People seem to be under the impression that love has to last forever, or has to be aimed at specific features, or has to be perfect, for it to be valid.
So for example, me and the person who I am seeing wouldn't say that we love each other because of the connotations that the term carries. What we've got going is pretty casual, and we don't expect it to last for that long (at least I don't, I can't speak for him that much). We're just enjoying it while we've got it. It's a sort of love, but not the sort that would be included in the popular definition, you know?
So yeah, we're not saying that because the phrase "I love you" has silly implications reinforced by years of popular culture that made it out to be something scary when it should be natural, without the whole scary forever "I'd die for you" thing
Oh man, I hope someone reads that so they can tell me if it made any sense.