If you can find me a definition of the word "abuse" where it is used in context to something along the lines as conflicting teachings, then I'll start accepting it as a term to use in the discussion.

The child doesn't really have a say in the matter, nor do, I, or anyone else. It's up to the parent. If they think it's right for their kid, then it's their choice. Of course, the child could have a say in the matter; but if he/she is forced, then what can they do?

You might as well argue against a parent who sends their kid to a reform school and say that because it doesn't fit with your standard of how a child should be raised, then it's somehow a form of abuse.

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