I think it's entirely possible to love someone in a non-romantic way, Asia. Now, this doesn't really compare 'cause my biological sister is a right wee turdface, but I know there are people I love like I would a sister who didn't hate my guts. I mean, I care about them, do what I can for them and would feel pretty damn rotten if anything happened to them -- one of my sisters went missing for a couple of weeks earlier this year, and I didn't sleep for days at a time.
But it's not as though I like them in a 'I'd like to spend the rest of my life with you' kinda way. And it's not exactly conclusive, because I feel obliged to keep an eye out for people who's shown interest in me and been turned down -- even the one who stabbed me. I don't love them at all -- but I feel I need to resentfully keep an eye out.
Now, I've only ever said 'I love you' to one person (Not all too hot on the 'I love you, brudda' and hugging your guy friends kinda thing) -- and I believed that was sincere and meaningful. I know a sister of mine really loves her friends openly -- and she'll randomly spout 'Aww, I love you' after someone's told a good joke and completely freak them out until she's explained herself.
But as a phrase it's dangerous for obvious reasons -- some people throw it around and some'll only use it for one person in their lifetime -- if the former says it to the latter it'll really shake them up, and if vice says it versa it'll be batted aside.
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How about if you know they love you and you do too but you're too scared of consequences - would you ever refrain from telling someone you love them because of that?
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Almost definitely. But there's always the chance of them already knowing -- if they see through the deception then, over time, it'll become an obstacle in the friendship.
And so on.